Feelings versus Commitment: Which Liberates, Which Imprisons?

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A woman chewed me out once because I asked her (very nicely) not to park her car behind mine while Pep Boys repaired a tire on it. In a hurry, I didn’t want to be slowed down while they got her to move her car so I could leave. I got so angry, I thought about giving her the finger on my way out of the parking lot. I felt that she deserved it for being such a Read more

Season of Darkness, Season of Light

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Something happened on December 21st at 3:38 pm, PST. The sun was at it’s lowest point on the horizon, the point in the year where the the night is longest and the day is the shortest in the Northern Hemisphere. This is known as the Read more

Are You A DIY? Attend my Self Hypnosis Class Starting 10/23 at PCC

 

If you are a DIY (Do It Yourselfer) then you might be interested in taking my Self Hypnosis for Success Class at PCC starting October 23rd and continuing for the next three Saturdays: October 30th and November 6th from 9 am to 10:30 am. Click here to register!

All hypnosis is self hypnosis, so in this class you’ll learn to use this valuable tool to address a variety of concerns including: overcoming bad habits such as procrastination, gaining confidence, increasing motivation, releasing limiting beliefs and business success. We’ll cover what hypnosis is and isn’t, how to do a hypnotic induction on yourself, crafting suggestions and how to put it all together to reprogram your subconsious mind for success in just a few minutes a day.

You’ll receive a course syllabus as well as my Guide to Self Hypnosis and my Self Hypnosis Conditioning CD, which also includes my studio produced “Peaceful Place” relaxation track as an added bonus.

This will be the third time I’m offering this class, and so far I’ve recieved great response. Here are some comments from the course evaluations I received from the  class held in January 2010:

  • Ted is very knowledgable and enthusiastic about his field. It really helped me a lot.”
  • “It actually works!”
  • “Professional, organized and informative. The instructor was engaging and knew his subject well. I’m glad I took the course!”
  • “Clear and easy guidelines to follow. Instructor is knowledgable and well experienced.”
  • “Ted is dynamic and makes an effort to engage the students. The content was well delivered.”

Remember, you’re being hypnotized daily, through advertising, the media, and the people you spend time with. In addition, you’ve been hypnotized throughout your life to believe things about yourself and the world that may or may not work for you anymore. The good news is, you can take control of your own positive programming. If you have habits of thinking and behaving that are holding you back from the success and happiness that you want, then you can learn to use the power of your own mind to change. Click here to register!

If you’re not interested in learning self-hypnosis but believe that hypnosis can be of help to you, give me a call and I’ll give you a free half hour consultation to discuss how you can benefit from working with me as your hypnotherapist or personal/small business coach. Call (626) 826-0612, email hypnosis@tedmoreno.com or click here.

A subconscious mind is a terrible thing to waste! Put it to work for you with self hypnosis. Click here to register.

How To Use Your Dreams to Let Go of Blocks

One time many years ago I awoke from a most interesting dream. The dream involved a romantic relationship that had ended several months earlier. In the dream, I was on a trip with this person. We were having a wonderful time. In the dream, it felt very natural to be with the person, when in fact, in reality, I had never felt completely comfortable.

When I awoke, I felt that the dream was a sign that I should contact this person again. I called her, but the number was disconnected. (I knew she had been thinking about moving.) Instead of feeling disappointed, I was relieved. I realized that in spite of my dream, I really had no desire to ever speak to this person again.

Years later, while in training to be a hypnotherapist, I realized that this dream had been what is called a “venting dream”. These types of dreams happen in the early mornings which is why it’s easy to remember them. In these dreams, the mind releases what is no longer relevant to your life. In my dream, I was letting go of the attachment I had to this relationship; my mind was ready to move forward.

Think of the mind like a clam that is tightly closed, not allowing anything in or out. When a person is in hypnosis, this clam opens slightly which allows a hypnotherapist to give the client suggestions that are able to get into the mind.  Since these suggestions will be in line with what the client wants, they might be at odds with what is already in the client’s mind. They will be irritants to the “clam”.

For example, take the suggestion “You are confident and feel good about your ability to communicate with people”. If this suggestion is given to a client that does not feel confident and doubts their ability to communicate with people, then there will be a conflict between what is suggested and what has been the client’s experience. However,  suppose the client  comes back for more sessions and gets the same suggestion again. Or listens everyday to the recording of the hypnosis part of the session. (I give my clients a recording of the hypnosis part of each session.) Soon, the new suggestion becomes more comfortable to the “clam” and the old way of being now becomes the irritant. In the venting dreams, the “clam” will open up and release the old belief that involves lack of confidence and doubts about the ability to communicate. In with the good, out with the bad.

At the end of most  hypnotherapy sessions  that I have with clients, I give them a suggestion that they will vent out in their early morning dreams what is holding them back from what they want. I’ll have them write their dreams down and this way we can see how they are responding to the suggestions given in hypnotherapy.

How can you use this to let go of whatever is blocking you or holding you back from success? Try this:

  • Identify a problem in your life that is keeping you from what you want to have, do or be. For example, let’s say you are a salesperson and you are afraid to make phone calls to prospects to make appointments.
  • The problem is fear. So before you go to bed, handwrite out two sentences. One which is an affirmation of what you want to do, and the other, a suggestion that you will vent out or release what is holding you back. For example: “I am easily making many phone calls each day that result in appointments with prospects that will increase my sales.” Say this out loud a couple of times. Then write this: “Tonight in my dreams I will vent out and release the fear of calling prospects.”
  • Keep some paper or a journal next to your bed. If you persist with the exercise described above, you should start to remember more of your dreams. Write them down as soon as you wake up.

You may have a dream that goes something like this: you call a prospect on the phone and the prospect yells at you and tells you not to call anymore. You call and call and everyone tells you the same thing. You  end up losing your sales job.

This dream would suggest that you are letting go of the fear of making the calls. You will begin to find that calling prospects becomes less and less scary.

This is a simple tool that you can use that can be really effective. However, for best results, make sure you are taking other actions as well to move forward in the area that your are working on.

Sweet Dreams!

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Tman

 Ted A. Moreno
Personal/Small Business Coach
Certified Hypnotherapist
Specializing in Your Success
www.TedMoreno.com                                                                       
 (626) 826-0612

Check Out This Video by Bob Proctor

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I spent all weekend at a workshop and I’m ready to call it a day. So instead of writing something I thought you might enjoy this video by Bob Proctor. You may know Bob  from the hit movie “The Secret”.

For 40 years, Bob Proctor has focused his entire agenda around helping people create lush lives of prosperity, rewarding relationships and spiritual awareness. In 1960, he was a high-school dropout with a resume of dead-end jobs and a future clouded in debt. One book was placed in his hands – Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich – which planted the seed of hope in Bob’s mind. In just months, and with further support from the works of Earl Nightingale, Bob’s life literally spun on a dime. In a year, he was making more than $100,000 and soon topped the $1 million mark.

Here’s the link to another really great video by Bob.

http://www.bobproctor-training.net/

Let me know what you thought about the videos!

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Tman

 Ted A. Moreno
Personal/Small Business Coach
Certified Hypnotherapist
Specializing in Your Success
www.TedMoreno.com                                                                       
 (626) 826-0612

Go Ahead and Ask. I Dare You.

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 A Job, A Yacht, and a Very Expensive Car

In 1987 I had a sales job that involved going into people’s homes and trying to sell them stuff. It was a very tough gig. It was the kind of deal where the managers of the business wore flashy jewelry, drove flashier cars and yelled a lot.

I decided that I wanted a Porsche. Now, at this point in my life I was barely able to make my $250 rent, and this sales job was not helping. But I had read some books about goal achievement, so I cut out a picture of a Porsche and hung it on my wall. I even knew enough to write it down, and it went something like this: “I’m driving a Porsche down I-10 listening to a Dire Straits cassette” (One of my favorite bands at the time). Now, please keep in mind that I was in my 20’s, single, naïve, and a bit of a knucklehead.

Somehow, a few months later, I managed to win a sales contest during a period of “feast” in my sales (as opposed to famine). The prize was that the winners would get flown from Phoenix, Arizona, where I lived,  to Huntington Beach, where the owner of the company lived. We would sail with him on his yacht to Catalina Island where we would have a nice dinner then spend the night in a motel. Which we did. The next day, on the yacht while sailing back to the mainland,  the owner of the company and I were talking. “So Ted,” he asked me “What kind of car do you see yourself driving?”
I have no idea why he asked me that question as opposed to “What are your goals?” or “What do you want out of life?”, but I definitely had an answer. “I would like to drive a Porsche!”

So we made a deal. If I agreed to open a franchise in Tucson in the next few months, he would put me in a Porsche today. “Sure!” I replied, of course. He got on his boat phone and made a short call. “What color?” he asked. “Red” I said.

When we arrived at Huntington Harbor, there, sitting on the dock, was a  brand new, 1987 Porsche 930. Seventy five thousand dollars worth of the world’s finest driving machinery, red as the blood that flows through my veins.

The owner of the company handed me the keys, I got in, and immediately drove to my parents house in LA to show off. I asked my dad if he had any music for me to listen to, and he gave me a Dire Straits cassette. I drove back to Phoenix on I-10.

This is a true story. Looking back, what I find  interesting is that I wasn’t  amazed that someone had given me the keys to a Porsche 930 to drive as my own.  It didn’t occur to me that I had manifested what I wanted through the use of visualization. All I did was ask and I got what I asked for.  When I hung the picture of the Porsche on the wall, I wasn’t feeling anxious, or wondering how I was going to get it, or worried that I wouldn’t. I just hung it there, thinking that it was a cool thing to do, visualizing myself driving this car and having fun doing it.

There’s  more to the story. The car was not given to me. The owner (a multi-millionaire) leased it and gave it to me to drive. It was my responsiblity to come up with $1100 each month which included the insurance and the lease payment. That wasn’t easy.

Be Careful of What You Ask For

A few months later, in the parking lot of a pool hall where I was hanging out (a place few respectable Porsche owners would want to go), someone mangled the rear window wiper and kicked off the driver’s motorized side view mirror. I didn’t have the $350 deductible to replace them.

I was living in an apartment complex where I was parking a $75,000 car in the parking lot. One day someone smashed the side window in a failed attempt to steal the car stereo.   About a month later,  I got a flat tire, but I couldn’t afford to replace it so I drove around on the spare donut tire until I finally turned the car back in to the owner, a mere six months after I got it. It was in bad shape and I was glad to be done with it.

The Moral of The Story

What I should have asked for was an income that allowed me to own a Porsche. Instead, I asked to drive one down I-10 listening to a Dire Straits cassette, which I did. I got what I asked for.

Fast forward to this past Monday, January 25th. I’m looking at my hypnotherapy  appointments for the week and things are looking  slow. I’m feeling just bit of anxiety, to be honest with you. I check my email and someone I haven’t talked to in a  long time sends me a link to a Tony Robbins video. ( Yes, I know I mention Robbins a lot, keep reading and you’ll see why.) It’s a really good video where Robbins talks about the use of “incantations”, which are affirmations with lots of emotion. I wrote down verbatim one that he uses, and it goes like this: “The abundance of God’s wealth is circulating in my life. It’s wealth flows to me in avalanches of abundance. All my needs and desires and goals  are met instantaneously  by Infinite Intelligence where I am one with God and God is everything. “

After writing this down and tweaking it a bit to match my personal belief system, I proclaimed my version of this affirmation with all the passion and energy I could muster. I also added, “My passion is helping people. People that I can help are calling me for hypnotherapy appointments.”

Within two hours two people called me to book appointments.  A coincidence? Perhaps, but it didn’t feel like it.

I wondered why are we so afraid to ask for what we want and what we need?

As children we ask incessantely for what we want. Then we grow up, learn how we think the world really works, and stop asking because of disappointment, resignation, cynicism, fear of rejection and dissapointment. We are taught, “If someone offers to give you something you should politely decline.”

What if eveyone started asking, or even demanding, what they wanted, including: an end to poverty and war, quality schools, a working health care system, health, wealth, happiness, love?

Maybe it’s all true: Ask and you will recieve. Knock and the door will be opened. Think and grow rich. What you focus on expands. When you visualize you materialize. The how’s are the domain of the universe. Energy goes where attention flows. You become what you think about.

I think I’m going  back to being naive. I’m going to start to consider the following, not as truths, yet, but as possiblities:

  • I can get what I want /need even though I might not deserve it.
  • I can ask over and over again for what I want / need because I might just get it.
  • I can get what I want / need even if I don’t have the money for it.
  • I might not have to work hard for what I want and need. Maybe I’ll get it just because I asked nicely for it.
  • I can take action to get what I want/need even if I don’t do it perfect.
  • The Universe, God, Infinite Intelligence, whatever you want to call it, wants to help me get what I want and need.
  • Maybe, just maybe, I am the Creative Power in the flesh. Maybe I do have the power to manifest whatever I want quickly, possibly instantaneously and I just don’t know it.
  • Maybe I don’t have to worry. Maybe I just need to ask and believe.  Maybe worry and anxiety is the problem when I perceive that I’m not getting what I want.

It’s not easy to train your mind to have faith in your ability to create what you want when it looks like it’s not going to happen for you. But I’m in training. I’ll let you know how it goes.

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Ted A. Moreno
Certified Hypnotherapist
Goal Achievement Specialist
www.TedMoreno.com                                                                       

Who Do You Have To Be To Get What You Want?

What makes the elephant charge his tusk in the misty mist, or the dusky dusk? What makes the muskrat guard his musk? Courage!

In last weeks post (Opening the Door to Success:GOALS) I discussed how to create goals. You take a desire, you turn it into a goal by writing it down using the SMART formula, and you make a plan. That’s what you do. However, there is a much more important part to getting what you want.

In 2003 when I signed on the dotted line to register for hypnotherapy school, a very familiar and habitual thought came into my mind. It went something like this: “Are you really going to do this? You’ve started a lot of things that you have never finished. Are you really going to use this education?”

I have to admit, that was a very scary voice. At that time in my life, I was desperate to find a meaningful and enjoyable career to which I could apply my passion, enthusiasm, time and energy. Becoming a hypnotherapist seemed like what I had been looking for. But the voice was right; I’d had many jobs, started many things that kind of petered out. The idea of going to school, investing time and money, and wasting it all by not following through, well, frankly, it horrified me.

At one point the voice started up with “If this doesn’t work out, maybe you can try…” Suddenly,  in my mind I said “Stop! This is it. I will make it work out. I will not let this opportunity pass me by without giving it my best shot. I refuse to consider that this won’t work for me.”

What I had done was to make a declaration: I was no longer a person that started things and didn’t finish. To get what I wanted, I needed to become a person who followed through. The first thing I did was to book a hypnotherapy appointment for myself to make sure that I continued to become that person.

Maybe you’ve had an experience like that. Where who you were changed because of a decision you made. Let me suggest that it really is that simple. You must make the decision to be the person you need to be to get what you want. It may be uncomfortable, it may be unfamiliar, you may not know what it looks like, etc. But your personality will have to change. I have heard people say, “I’d like to have that (goal) but I’m not that kind of person that can do that, it’s not in my nature….” Bullpoop! You can change your nature. To go from where you are to where you want to be, you must.

Here are some qualities that I believe are essential for anyone that sets goals and intends to achieve them. These are in part taken from one of the best investments I have ever made in personal development, “Dynamics of Personal Goal Setting” by Paul J. Meyer.

  • You must be a person who is goal oriented. You must beleive that it’s important to have goals and to work to achieve them. If you are not willing to become one of these people then stop reading this right now, get yourself some Cheetos or Doritos and go watch television. You must be a person who desires to accomplish something. You must be a person who sets goals regularly. It all starts there.
  • You must be a person who is comfortable with being uncomfortable. What you are doing now is comfortable. If you are not getting what you want, you must do something different. Doing something different will feel uncomfortable. Be OK with that. Realize that there is no change without discomfort. Expect it, and step right into it.
  • You must become a person that learns to overcome inertia and takes action now. Inertia is the tendency for bodies to remain at rest. This can be applied to minds as well. It’s  hard to get off the sofa to go out and jog. But once you are jogging, it’s a lot easier to continue to put on foot in front of the other. That’s because once you start, you have momentum that carries you forward. Inertia affects us all. To get what you want, you must learn to overcome it and take action. Period.
  • You must be courageous. It can be scary to set a goal. It’s risky. You must have the courage to take risks. What if you fail? What if you don’t do it right? What if there are obstacles? Rest assured, there will be obstacles, you can count on it. Be courageous and start anyway and deal with the obstacles when they come.  You might be afraid to face your own weaknesses. You’re not good with people, money, sales, travelling, speaking in public, etc, etc, etc. You can learn.  Having courage doesn’t mean you are not afraid, it means that you move forward in spite of the fear. And everyone has fear. Even you. Yes, you.
  • You must be supremely confident. I almost typed “You must have confidence.” But confidence is not something you have, it’s something you are. You say you are not confident? You can become confident. You can learn. Taking the steps I outlined in the last post to create your goals will give you confidence. Confidence simply means you have developed the belief that you can and will accomplish your goals.
  • You must be determined. By determined I mean you refuse to be stopped, side tracked, or distracted. Have you heard the story of how Sylvester Stallone sold his script for the movie “Rocky”? It truly is one of the most inspiring stories I have ever heard and a testament to dogged determination. Click on this link to hear Tony Robbins tell the tale.
  • You must be a person who can generate energy and motivation. Somedays, you will not feel motivated. Sometimes you will not have the energy. If there is something you need to do, the absolute worst thing you can do is say is “I don’t really feel motivated” or “I don’t have the energy”. Say “Even though I don’t have the motivation or energy, I’m going to do it anyway.” Let’s face it folks, lack of motivation is one thing and one thing only: a bad habit. Lack of energy can be the same thing although there may be dietary or other physical issues that may need to be addressed. If you really want to achieve your goals, you will address them.

The good news is, you don’t have to do it all on your own. Take a self-development course or seminar. Call a therapist or hypnotherapist (preferably me). Read a book. The human mind is one of the most powerful forces on earth. What are you doing with it?

Here’s to looking at you (become who you need to be)!

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Ted A. Moreno, C.Ht., Goal Achievement Specialist
www.TedMoreno.com                                                                       

Opening the Door to Success:GOALS (Guarantee Overcoming Anything Limiting Success)

 

My four-year old daughter who I call The Chick asked me the other day when she could ride her new tricycle. “Tomorrow” I replied. “But Dad” she exclaimed, Tomorrow’s a long time!” 

If only that were still true. If you’re like most people, the things you were going to do tomorrow keep piling up as quick as the days pass. You’ve heard it before: “I was going to do it but life got in the way.” 

That’s why only 44% of Americans bother to make New Years Resolutions. The rest have decided they don’t work. Like like banging your head against the wall, it accomplishes nothing except to give you a headache. In fact, instead of making resolutions, it might just be better to bang your head against the wall and save your self-esteem the beating you might give it when you find that your resolutions have fallen by the wayside. 

Hey, if you made some New Years resolutions, good for you. However, if you want to make any lasting change, there’s a strategy for doing  it and “resolving” to change is not it.   I suggest that we throw out New Years resolutions (if you haven’t already) and institute “New Year’s Goals.” 

In last week’s edition of Ted’s Tips for Transformation, I revealed what I believe is the key to success: knowing what you want. That’s the first step, the key that opens the door. 

The next step is where 90% of people stumble. You must take your thought or resolution about what you want and turn it into a goal. What’s the difference? 

First of all, a your must write down your goal or it is just a wish. Sometimes wishes come true (sorry Jiminy Cricket) but they have a better chance if you write them down as a goal. Get yourself a notebook or  journal and write down what you want to have, do or who you want to be. If you are serious about this goal, then it becomes a project, something you attend to daily, (kind of like having a kid). Dedicate a notebook or journal to this project. 

Now, you may have a number of things that you want.  The key here is to ask yourself, “What am I willing to commit to as a goal?” Focus on goals that will have the most impact on your life and that you feel you can reasonably get started on now. Some of your goals may not be fully formed or that you think you’d like to do but are not fully committed. Put those in a “later” or “back-burner” category. 

Okay, so now maybe you have three or four goals that you can focus on and commit to right away. You may have heard of the SMART formula for goals. What you want to do now is to set your goals using the SMART formula: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timetable.  

  1. Specific. What exactly do you want to accomplish? Be very clear. Describe it exactly. “In 2010, I am doubling last year’s income” is a lot better than “I want more money.” As Tony Robbins would say to that, “Here’s a dollar, get outta here!”  Make sure you state them positively, for example, don’t say, “I don’t want to feel strapped financially anymore”
  2. Measurable. How will you know when it’s achieved? How will you track your progress? If a goal is measurable, then the results you want will be clear in your mind.
  3. Attainable. You must believe that it is possible for you to get what you want. Develop a written plan for achieving your goal so that you have a roadmap that confirms in your mind that there is a way to get what you want. Also, identify roadblocks and obstacles that may come up and how you can overcome them.
  4. Realistic.  Be honest with yourself. Is it really something you want, or something you think you should have? Is this goal realistic for what is going on in your life? Is it consistent with your values? If not, then it’s not realistic.
  5. Timetable. When will you have it? Put some urgency on it by assigning a deadline. Many folks don’t like deadlines. Why? Because it puts pressure on them to perform. That’s exactly the reason you want deadlines. Deadlines act on you, affecting your body chemistry to react to the timetable you’ve set. They prepare your body, your mind and your attitudes to respond effectively. They create a challenge and help support a positive attitude. Don’t underestimate the power of a timetable.

That’s what you’ve got to do to guarantee the highest chance of success for your goals. Sounds like work? You betcha. Do it anyway, I know you’re up for it. 

Next week we’ll talk about who you have to Be to get what you want. If you like this post, please leave a comment and/or share it with your social networks. 

Here’s to getting what you intend in 2010!, 

TMan (the T stands for Transformation, what else?) 

Ted A. Moreno, C.Ht., Goal Achievement Specialist
www.TedMoreno.com

                                                                     

  

The Key to Success Is…

 

Before I tell you what I think the key to success is, let me tell you a story.

My wife and I were shopping for a house in early 2009.  We had been looking for more than a couple of years. It was at times a grueling experience. We often had to do this after work, dragging our two small daughters along, all of us tired and hungry. Tired and hungry kids in an empty house with nothing to do mixed with tired and hungry parents trying to talk to a realtor can be a lethal combination.

 We  looked at condos. We looked at houses with 1 bedroom and 1 bath and we looked at 2 bedroom, 2 baths. We looked at houses with big yards, little yards and no yard,  garage/no garage, we looked at everything but couldn’t find someting we liked.  It was at times very discouraging.

Most of the time I was highly resistant to the whole process. Although buying a house seemed like a good idea, it seemed to be almost not worth the hassle. My wife, God bless her, did most of the work, dealing with listings, realtors, appointments and paperwork. 

By early 2009, the economy had gone to hell, and home prices had hit bottom. We stopped looking at condos and started focusing on single family homes.  We looked at more houses: some with big yards, some with no yards, garage, no garage. It was then we decided that a yard was important for our kids and that a garage was necessary for storage.

To make a long story short, we continued to make decisions about what we were looking for. Eventually, we became clear about what we wanted: a two bedroom, two bath house with a yard and detached garage, and possibly a spare bedroom/office for the only guy in the family to go hide out in when the female energy got too intense. We submitted some offers. At this point, I made the decision to let go of my resistance to the process of home buying, and focus instead on the outcome: having our own home.

I believe it was in late February that we walked into a house built in 1946 that had two bedrooms, two baths, a large yard,  a detached garage, as well as a bonus room that could be used as an office. We are living in that house today.

The moral of the story? The more clear we became about what we wanted in a house, the easier the process got and the quicker we moved towards getting what we wanted.

I believe that the key to success is knowing what you want.

Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Yet, I would say that very few people really know what they want. They are pulled this way and that way by the desire of the moment. They let their focus  get pulled away from what they want by the multitude of distractions that our modern life offers. The key to living a successful life is to decide what you want and go after it.

What is success? I think the best definition I’ve heard comes from
Paul J. Meyer who says: Success is the progressive realization of personal, predetermined, worthwhile goals. According to this definition, if you know what you want, and are taking steps to get it, then you are a success.

Notice we are talking about the key to success. Knowing what you want is the key because it opens the door. But that’s only part of the process. The other part is you must take action by walking through the door. In other words, when you decide what you want, you won’t waste time on doors, or paths that don’t lead you where you want to go. The latin root of the word decide means to “cut away” This implies that you cut away various other distractions, alternatives, and temporary desires, leaving you to focus on one thing only: what it is that you want.

Spend some time thinking about what it is that you want. Write your thoughts down on paper or use a journal. I’ve been using a flip chart and a whiteboard which is really helpful since I tend to be visual.

In the coming weeks we’ll talk about the power of goals in helping you get what you want. Fow now, just remember, all accomplishment starts with a decision. Decide what it is that you want. That’s the first step.

What Lies Dormant Within You?

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When I was living in Arizona, I tried to make it a point to come to Los Angeles every year at the holidays to see my family for three or four days. I’d stay at my parent’s house; the house in which I grew up.

During the day, both my folks would be at work, and since the other birds (my siblings) had long since flown the coop, there was just me hanging out.

I’m a person who enjoys solitude, so I always looked forward to that time. I would walk from room to room in my parents’ house,  looking at framed photos, thinking about all the time that had passed since I had left to be on my own. I’d think about my childhood, and people I’d lost touch with.  Sometimes I’d read, or play my guitar, or just sit and think in the quiet stillness.

One day I went out to the backyard to walk around and noticed one of the trees had completely lost all it’s leaves. All that remained were sticks. It looked dead. I remembered that the last time I had visited LA, in spring, it was big and full and had flowers on it. I wondered, “What’s  keeping it alive?” What was going in on there? It occurred to me that maybe the tree was like me, just kind of hanging out and being quiet for a while. A crazy thought occurred to me, that maybe the tree was reflecting on its life, in anticipation of the burst of energy that is Spring, in the revolving cycle of the seasons.

December 21st is the shortest day of the year, the winter Solstice. There’s that sense of dormancy, quiet, shutting down for a while. I think it serves us to take a cue from nature and do the same.

I invite and encourage you to take some quiet time to reflect over the past year and get in touch with what is possible for you in the future. Focus on the good stuff that happened to you.  Get a journal or some paper. Ask yourself some questions about the past year and write down the answers:

  • What challenges did you overcome?
  • What challenges stopped you?
  • What did you accomplish?
  • What remains left undone?
  • What did you learn?
  • What potential became real in your life?
  • Who have you become that you were not one year ago?

I think there’s great value in doing this. You can become present to your own self-development and growth.

But I think the most important question to ask yourself during this introspective time of year is this:

What lies dormant within me that is ready to awake?

See yourself as part of the cycle of the seasons. We all get our leaves stripped off of us at times. Sometimes we feel that we will be taken down by the winds of circumstance and change. But we can come back with renewed energy and life. It’s in our nature. Be at peace now with what happened over the past year. It’s done, it’s over. Take the seeds of growth that were given to you, take the lessons, the wisdom and the learning, plant them in your mind and move forward.

Get really clear about what you want  for your life. Maybe you are unsure, but as Les Brown suggests, tell yourself “It’s possible!” Everybody talks about taking massive action. For now, do some massive dreaming! Consider that what you thought wasn’t  possible for you in the past is no longer valid because you are not that person anymore. You have a whole year of new experiences, wisdom and learning. What are you ready for now that you weren’t ready for previously? How are you stronger and more prepared to take something on, to be more engaged with life, to play a bigger, more confident game? I guarantee you that there is something: writing a book, learning an instrument, learning a language, stepping into a new relationship or recreating an existing one,  a new job, greater health, prosperity, happiness. Discover it. You may have to dig a little in some cold and frozen soil but it’s there.  It’s waiting.

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Dedicated to helping you move to your next level of greatness,

TMan

 Ted A. Moreno
Personal/Small Business Coach
Certified Hypnotherapist
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