What Lies Dormant Within You?

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When I was living in Arizona, I tried to make it a point to come to Los Angeles every year at the holidays to see my family for three or four days. I’d stay at my parent’s house; the house in which I grew up.

During the day, both my folks would be at work, and since the other birds (my siblings) had long since flown the coop, there was just me hanging out.

I’m a person who enjoys solitude, so I always looked forward to that time. I would walk from room to room in my parents’ house,  looking at framed photos, thinking about all the time that had passed since I had left to be on my own. I’d think about my childhood, and people I’d lost touch with.  Sometimes I’d read, or play my guitar, or just sit and think in the quiet stillness.

One day I went out to the backyard to walk around and noticed one of the trees had completely lost all it’s leaves. All that remained were sticks. It looked dead. I remembered that the last time I had visited LA, in spring, it was big and full and had flowers on it. I wondered, “What’s  keeping it alive?” What was going in on there? It occurred to me that maybe the tree was like me, just kind of hanging out and being quiet for a while. A crazy thought occurred to me, that maybe the tree was reflecting on its life, in anticipation of the burst of energy that is Spring, in the revolving cycle of the seasons.

December 21st is the shortest day of the year, the winter Solstice. There’s that sense of dormancy, quiet, shutting down for a while. I think it serves us to take a cue from nature and do the same.

I invite and encourage you to take some quiet time to reflect over the past year and get in touch with what is possible for you in the future. Focus on the good stuff that happened to you.  Get a journal or some paper. Ask yourself some questions about the past year and write down the answers:

  • What challenges did you overcome?
  • What challenges stopped you?
  • What did you accomplish?
  • What remains left undone?
  • What did you learn?
  • What potential became real in your life?
  • Who have you become that you were not one year ago?

I think there’s great value in doing this. You can become present to your own self-development and growth.

But I think the most important question to ask yourself during this introspective time of year is this:

What lies dormant within me that is ready to awake?

See yourself as part of the cycle of the seasons. We all get our leaves stripped off of us at times. Sometimes we feel that we will be taken down by the winds of circumstance and change. But we can come back with renewed energy and life. It’s in our nature. Be at peace now with what happened over the past year. It’s done, it’s over. Take the seeds of growth that were given to you, take the lessons, the wisdom and the learning, plant them in your mind and move forward.

Get really clear about what you want  for your life. Maybe you are unsure, but as Les Brown suggests, tell yourself “It’s possible!” Everybody talks about taking massive action. For now, do some massive dreaming! Consider that what you thought wasn’t  possible for you in the past is no longer valid because you are not that person anymore. You have a whole year of new experiences, wisdom and learning. What are you ready for now that you weren’t ready for previously? How are you stronger and more prepared to take something on, to be more engaged with life, to play a bigger, more confident game? I guarantee you that there is something: writing a book, learning an instrument, learning a language, stepping into a new relationship or recreating an existing one,  a new job, greater health, prosperity, happiness. Discover it. You may have to dig a little in some cold and frozen soil but it’s there.  It’s waiting.

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Dedicated to helping you move to your next level of greatness,

TMan

 Ted A. Moreno
Personal/Small Business Coach
Certified Hypnotherapist
www.TedMoreno.com                                                                       
 (626) 826-0612

The Magic Thirty Minutes to Control Your Mind

Greetings! I hope everyone enjoyed their Independence Day festivities.

What is independence? Well, it’s freedom, isn’t it? Freedom to call your own shots, to be the master of your destiny, to have control over your life. In my opinion, the  place to start creating that  freedom is in our own minds. We all seek  freedom from our own bad habits. Often it feels that we’re not really free to create what we want in our lives because we can’t seem to get past  our own self limiting and self defeating behaviors.

In my work as a hypnotherapist, as well as my own personal life, I’m always on the lookout for ways to create habits that empower me and help me get closer to my goals. Although there are many different modalities and techniques, I find that affirmations such as I described in my last post seem a fairly simple and easy way point my mind in the direction I want it to go.

Remember, we are all in hypnosis on a daily basis; half an hour after we wake up, and half an hour before we go to sleep. Our subconscious minds are suggestible at these times so why not give ourselves some positive suggestions? These are the magic 30 minutes to take control of your mind. This is when you want to read motivational or positive material. This is the time to  read and say your affirmations. Your mind is open to suggestions at these times, be careful what you put into it!! The absolute last thing you want to do is to watch your local news before bed and hear about how many people were murdered or assaulted in your city. Make no mistake about it, this is often the leading story of the nightly news, and for good reason: to capture your attention and keep you watching. Read or listen to something that educates, motivates or inspires you instead.

Last week I talked about handwriting your affirmations. Handwriting is more of a right brain function, where as printing is more of a left brain function. We have a tendency to use our left brain function more often as this is the logical, linear side of the brain. However, it is the right side of the brain that is creative and intuitive. This is a  generalization as both types of functions can span hemispheres. The point is that by handwriting it is possible to stimulate the creative part of our brain to find solutions to challenges that stand in the way of our success.  We know from graphology, (handwriting analysis) that much of our personality comes out in our handwriting. I believe it goes the other way as well; what we write can affect our subconscious minds. Handwriting  what you want within half an hour before bed and half an hour of waking up can be a powerful way to affect your mind and program it for success. Try it for 30 days and see what happens, using the same affirmations each day.

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Tman

 Ted A. Moreno
Personal/Small Business Coach
Certified Hypnotherapist
Specializing in Your Success
www.TedMoreno.com                                                                       
 (626) 826-0612

A Technique to Program Your Mind For Goal Achievement

In my effort to provide useful  information to the readers of this blog, let me give you an exercise that I have been using for many years to increase my motivation and to keep me on track to achieve my goals. This is but one example of the kind of tools I give to my clients to help them program their minds for success. Like I said, I use this myself and it really works.

It’s very simple and involves affirmations. Now before you start going on about the Stuart Smalley character on Saturday Night Live, let me assure you that there are many ways to do affirmations and some are more effective than others.

First, pick a goal that you want to achieve and decide what  the actions are that you need to be taking now to achieve the goal. For example, say you like to ride road bikes and you want to do your first century (100 miles) event. Of course, you need to be realistic. If you have not ridden more than 5 miles ever and the event is 30 days away, well, sorry but, it ain’t gonna happen.

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Next, what are the things you need to be doing daily to achieve your goal of riding in your first 100 mile ride in a time that gets you to the finish line before dark? Well, obviously, you need to  be riding everyday or almost every day. What you want to do is to craft an affirmation that is specific and relevant. “I’m riding my bike every day” would not be as good as “I am riding my bike at least 30 miles daily and at least 60 miles on the weekends. Then, come up with two or three more that support your goal. How about “I am eating the right foods that give me energy and stamina when I train.” or I’m enjoying the feeling of getting stronger and more conditioned each time I ride.” You get the picture.

This is what you do next. Write the affirmations down so that you have them exactly how you like them. Then, within half an hour before bed time and within half an hour of waking up, hand-write them once each. It must be handwriting.It doesn’t matter how crappy your handwriting looks, printing is not near as effective.  Now say the affirmation out loud while reading it so that you involve the sense of sight and hearing in addition to the physical (kinesthetic) process of writing them. Then picture in your mind, for just a few seconds, yourself doing the behavior you want to do.

Do the affirmations at night and in the morning for 30 days before you change them. Make sure you frame the affirmations in the positive as opposed to the negative. You don’t want  “I am not sitting in front of the TV eating Cheetos when I should be training on my bike.” Start with “I am..” or “I am becoming..” or “I have… etc.

Why handwriting? Why the half hour before bedtime? You can get the answer by watching this video,  (which I highly recommend) or you can wait until my next post.

Have an awesome week,

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Tman

 Ted A. Moreno
Personal/Small Business Coach
Certified Hypnotherapist
Specializing in Your Success
www.TedMoreno.com                                                                       
 (626) 826-0612