The Healing Power of Being in Your Body – Episode 485

Ted discusses the work of Dr. Peter A. Levine, the developer of Somatic Experiencing, as well as the healing that is available when we allow ourselves to be in our bodies in an intentional and present way.

There is a great source of wisdom and intelligence for us in our human bodies. If we can connect with and be present to our bodies, we can get information and guidance that can help us not only let go of emotional wounds but guide us in our journey through life.

Ted also talks about he helps his clients to release trauma, pain and anxiety his practice by helping his clients re-connect or re-inhabit their bodies in a healing and powerful way.

If you have trauma, pain or anxiety, or are interested in the power of the mind body connection, check out this episode!

 

 

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I was listening to a popular podcast called “10% Happier with Dan Harris”. His guest was Dr. Peter A. Levine, who has spent the last 50 years developing Somatic Experiencing.

I encourage you to check out this podcast (Sept. 5th, 2025) as well as the work of Dr. Peter Levine, especially if you have a history of trauma, chronic physical symptoms such as gut issues or if you are interested in the current exploration of the body connection as it relates to trauma and chronic pain. In this podcast, Dr. Levine explains the basics of Somatic Experiencing and how to do it.

You can also learn more at somaticexperiencing.com

In short, Somatic Experiencing (SE), is a body-oriented psychotherapy developed by Peter Levine, that helps resolve trauma by focusing on physical sensations to release stored stress in the nervous system. It uses techniques including body awareness, through “bottom-up” processing. This builds the client’s ability to stay present and feel safe within their body. SE can alleviate symptoms of PTSD, anxiety, depression, and chronic pain.

 A “bottom-up” approach, means that it starts by addressing the physical sensations of trauma rather than the emotions or thoughts. This helps to regulate the nervous system and prevent overwhelm.

I have just purchased Peter Levine’s book titled An Autobiography of Trauma because I find that helping clients to re-inhabit their bodies is a powerful way to release trauma from the body.

This is a very important topic to me and in my practice and that’s why I’m sharing this with you.

I was introduced to Dr. Levine’s work in my recent training at the Hypnosis Motivation Institute through the second year of the program, where I received a degree in Mind Body Psychology.

I want to be clear that as a hypnotherapist, I’m not trained yet in Somatic Experiencing which is a professional training program. However, I’ve come to see the incredible power of re-inhabiting  or re-occupying the physical body in a very intentional way.

There is a great source of wisdom and intelligence for us in our human bodies. If we can connect with and be present to our bodies, we can get information and guidance that can help us not only let go of emotional wounds but guide us in our journey through life.

As a modern society, we have become so disconnected from our bodies that we end up “stuck in our heads”, relying solely on thinking and logic to navigate the challenges of life and trying to find answers, direction and validation of our choices amid the clutter of our minds. Often, we find ourselves in ” analysis paralysis”, unable to make a decision, confused and unsure. However, the body knows and will try to tell us what we need to know, first as feelings, hunches or discomfort, but eventually, as pain or even dis-ease.

There is a reason we have phrases such as “trust your gut” or “listen to your heart” or “the answers are within”. We have a collective sense that there is an intuitive wisdom that comes along with the vehicle that carries us through life that we call our bodies.

But often, we resist this wisdom. The body is always talking to us but often we don’t hear. We don’t want to hear because we don’t want to feel discomfort, unease or the sense that something is not right. We would rather have someone tell us what to do, or read a book, or look it up on the internet. And when the message from our body gets too loud (Hey!!! This is not working for us!! How about a headache or back ache to get your attention?) we shut it down with medication or engage in any of a myriad of distractions from what our bodies are trying to tell us. We can become so disconnected from our bodies that we end up repressing our feelings to the point where they come out as pain or discomfort.

The mind and the body are not two separate things. What we have is a bodymind.

This idea has been a fringe idea, the belief that the mind and body are connected as part of the same process, having a profound influence on each other. The idea that trauma, or chronic depression or longstanding anxiety, can influence or even be the root of diseases processes such as cancer, is now an idea that is becoming more mainstream through the work of people such as Peter Levine, Caroline Myss and Gabor Mate to name just a few.

We can learn to regulate our nervous systems through greater attention to the sensations of the body. This can be an effective way to reduce stress, anxiety, depression, chronic pain and trauma.

In the case of trauma, we have a tendency to think of trauma as psychological. But trauma is very much stored in the body.

Even though I am not trained in Somatic Experiencing (yet), I can still work with my clients to help them feel and re-connect with their bodies to release anxiety, trauma and pain.

First and foremost, the hypnotic state is a somatic experience. While in hypnosis, people get a chance to slow down, calm the mental chatter, and allow the body to release tension, stress and pressure. The hypnotic state is a venting state, venting meaning release. Almost everyone at the end of their hypnotherapy session says that they feel better, more relaxed and more emotionally calm.

But you don’t need to be in hypnosis to connect with your body in a meaningful and powerful way. Yoga is another way as well as any kind of mindful exercise or movement of the body. I say mindful because the idea here is to be rooted and present to the sensations of the body.

In my hypnotherapy practice, even before we do the hypnosis part, I’ll have my clients sit in a chair, close their eyes and just focus on the breath. This is a fundamental way to reconnect with the body.

Then, I’ll ask them, what are feeling in your body? What are the sensations? I give them an opportunity to be present in their bodies and feel what they’re feeling without being afraid or wanting to check out or engage in the story of why they are feeling this way. This can be very hard for some people but it gets easier with practice.

For example, I was working with a woman recently who was having a lot of tension in her neck and shoulders. As she allowed herself to feel the tension, I asked her if there was any accompanying emotion. She said she was present to the feeling of worry.

I asked her to maintain her attention on the feeling of worry. Through this exploration of the feelings in her body, she realized that she was worried about her husband staying wanting to say married to her. There was no reason at all for her to worry about this, they had a good, solid loving marriage. However, she was able to identify this concern deep inside and let it go. The tension and pressure in her shoulders released as she released the worry that she didn’t even knew she had.

Obviously, there is a lot more that can be said about this type of work, and I’ll continue to address this topic in the future.

I just want to give you something to think about. And a recommendation: take time to be in your body. Slowly, mindfully, with presence. Do breathing exercises. Do some gentle stretching every day. Take mindful walks out in nature. Do yoga. Walk barefoot outside. Sit in the sun. Dance. Hug your people and your pets a lot more.

You won’t regret the feeling of integration that comes from having a felt sense of your body.

If you are challenged by anxiety, feeling unsafe in your body, or feel that you are disconnected from your body, , request a complimentary consultation. Go to https://Tedmoreno.com/contact and he’ll get back to you in 48 hours to schedule your consultation and schedule your first hypnotherapy session.

Illustration by Martin Mancha

I’ll leave you with a quote by Dr. Peter Levine:

“Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering.”

Thanks so much for reading, just a reminder that you can watch this podcast on my YouTube channel @TedAMoreno or listen to this podcast on Spotify, Apple podcasts, Soundcloud or TedinYourHead.com.

Take care and I’ll talk to you soon.

Ted

 

When Calm Waters Get Rough: Navigating Life Transitions – Episode 484

Life transitions when we are young are fun! We are hopeful, optimistic and energetic.

Life transitions when we get older are more difficult, especially the unexpected or unwanted ones.

What can we do when the waters of change get rough?

How can we navigate life transitions that are difficult, overwhelming, or painful.

The fact is that we are designed for these transitions, difficult as they may be.

In the episode, Ted shares his own life transition and offers some thoughts as to how we can find our way through the storm and find calmer waters.

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I’ve taken a break from my podcast for the past couple of weeks.

My two kids have moved out of the house and are living at their respective colleges.

During that process, which went smoothly for the most part, I told myself that there was too much going on to do a podcast. But the truth is, now what I look back, I was dealing with the transition from having two children at home to having none.

For the past 20 years my wife and I have been raising kids. And now, it feels like that’s done. Their bedrooms are empty, and the house is a lot more quiet (and tidy.)

We will continue to support our children but something has changed.

It’s a good change, right?  Still, it’s a big transition for my wife and me.

The last time I did a podcast on life transitions was in January 2024. At that time, I had just turned 64, my oldest child was driving and commuting to the local community college. The other own was still in high school.

One thing that you can always count on is that life will change.

I think that the life transitions that we experience as younger people are easier. They’re exciting and we welcome them.

Going from grade school to high school. Learning how to ride a bike. Learning how to drive, having the first experience with love, getting a job, graduating from high school. We’re a lot more resilient, more hopeful, more positive.

I can’t help but feel that the older we get, the harder it is to deal with the changes that come with growing older.

The known, the familiar, the comfortable: our minds like these things, that’s how we’re wired. What is new and unknown is scary and uncomfortable for our minds.

Everything about us does not want to change.

Yet, we continue to seek change. Although not as exciting and not as easy as when we were younger, we still seek to grow, we seek to improve our life circumstances, make more money, become happier, have better habits and better relationships. We want and we need a certain level of change.

But, as you know, change will happen to us whether we want it or not.

For example, the four Ds: death, divorce, disease, debt.

The loss of a job, the loss of friends for whatever reason, the loss of beloved pets. The ending of a relationship, the loss of our youth. These are changes we don’t want, we don’t seek.

We don’t seek old age. We don’t seek marital strife, separation and divorce. We certainly don’t want to lose those that we love, much less watch them lose their physical and mental capabilities.

Even people who look forward to retirement often find they are unprepared for this transition.

These are the rough waters of life’s transitions. How do we navigate these waters?

Well, to continue the nautical metaphor, if you were a sailor, you would expect rough waters. Hopefully, you will be skilled enough to sail through them, trusting that you will eventually find calmer waters.

Nobody wants to think about the inevitability of things happening that we don’t want. And I don’t think we really need to, a whole lot. What we can do though, is quietly, come to a full and complete acceptance that things will change. All things must pass. Everything must change. Life itself is transitory. We don’t have to like it; we just need to see it as an essential fact of life.

Learning to let go of how it used to be is so hard sometimes. It really is a process, just as grieving is a process.

If we work on being resilient though, there may be an opportunity for growth.  What else can we do but believe that we are capable of rolling with the changes?

I like things to stay the same. I don’t like change. I drag my feet through change. I get annoyed. I get angry. I get indignant, like why do I have to do this?

When my wife and I were looking to buy a house, I had to pulled kicking and screaming through the process.

Eventually, I had to acknowledge my feelings. I was afraid. I didn’t know what it was going to look like. I didn’t know if I could handle a mortgage. But I allowed myself to move forward with courage.

Hopefully we can come to acceptance. We realize we must allow, and if possible, embrace change.

We can practice being better with change. That’s the opportunity.

And that my friends, is how we cultivate wisdom. It’s never too late to become wise. To see what IS, not how you think it should be. Not how you would like it to be.

Seek to be free from your own ego when you can, and you’ll get better at it, but man, it ain’t easy.

I always say that we think we live life but most of the time, life lives us.

During those difficult life transitions, when it seems that life is having its way with us, we need to take care of ourselves in every way:

  • Eating, sleeping, and taking time to ourselves.
  • Asking for help if necessary
  • Talking to someone.
  • Building a strong support system.
  • Being flexible and adaptable.
  • Being patient with yourself. Give yourself time to adjust to the new reality.
  • Avoiding unhealthy comping mechanisms, like drinking etc.
  • Write or document your journey. Share it with someone.
  • Join a group.

Step back, be present, see the patterns of life. Get grounded in the reality of being human.

To be able to witness the change of the seasons, the growth of your kids, and your own growth is a privilege.

I would suggest that it’s also a privilege to be fully in the flow of life and to be able to say goodbye to those things that have brought you joy, comfort and opportunity. And it can be a privilege to say goodbye to those we have loved and cherished.

My favorite quote is by John A. Shedd, who said “A ship in a harbor is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.

Trust that we are built for these life transitions. It’s in our DNA. Throughout history we humans have developed traditions, rituals and beliefs to navigate these changes.

We are designed to travel on this journey and to be able to courageously greet the rough waters of change and know that we have what it takes to get to the place once again where the water is calm, where we can rest, and have peace.

For a while.

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43 Things to Stop Doing Now! – Episode 483

 

We all have a pretty good idea of what we need to be doing to be happy and healthy. And we probably have some behaviors that we know we should stop.

In this post, Ted gives you 43 things you should stop doing now. You already know some of them! Check it out.

 

 

 

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If you do a search on the internet for self-development or personal transformation, you’ll find numerous articles that start with “10 ways to be better” or “5 tips to overcome anxiety” or “3 ways to do this or that…”

A lot of my blog posts and articles have that type of title as well.

We all have a pretty good idea of what we need to be doing to be happy and healthy. And we probably have some behaviors that we know we should stop.

In this post, I’ll give you 43 things you should stop doing now, in my humble opinion.

This is a redo one of my very first podcasts, also posted as a blog post, in 2016. When I released it, I had a crazy soundtrack and all kinds of added sounds like horses and ticking clocks and hiccupping. It’s pretty funny to go back and listen to if you want to.

Here are 43 Things to Stop Doing Now!

  1. Stop saying “I hate _.” That just makes you a hater. Language matters, especially your own.
  2. Stop responding to problems as if you are the only one with problems. You’re not. Life comes with problems so that you can get better at living.
  3. Stop complaining to people that can’t do anything about it. They don’t want to hear.
  4. Stop complaining if nothing can be done about it.
  5. Just stop complaining, already! (Although I did do a podcast titled “Sometimes you have to moan” so maybe this one should be stop complaining so much…)
  6. Stop wishing that what is, isn’t and that what isn’t, is. Deal with what is real because what’s in front of you is your life so take a good look at it.
  7. Stop watching so much damn television. Get off the couch. Take a walk. Read a book or listen to one.
  8. Stop calling yourself bad names. You are what you say you are.
  9. Stop comparing yourself to others. There will always be those that are smarter, richer, luckier, prettier and happier than you. Compare and despair.
  10. Stop buying crap you don’t need. Lighten your load. After you die most of your stuff will be donated, sold or thrown away.
  11. Stop equating your self-worth with your net worth. Doing that is harmful to both.
  12. Stop caring about what other people think about you. Most of the time, it’s none of your business. Care more about what you think about yourself.
  13. Stop trying to get more done in less time. Life is not about doing. Life is about being.
  14. Don’t allow yourself to be overwhelmed with worry and fear about what the politicians are doing. Be concerned, stay informed, do what you can to stay safe but remember life goes on and we need to make the best of it.
  15. Please stop acting and talking like your favorite celebrity or tv character.
  16. Stop paying so much attention to what’s happens to Kelly or Megan or Cassie or Tom or any other celebrity. You have more important things to think about.
  17. Stop worrying so much.
  18. Stop believing everything you hear.
  19. Stop believing everything you read.
  20. Stop believing everything you see.
  21. Stop believing everything you think.
  22. Stop pretending you don’t care about that thing that you are always insisting that you don’t care about. Because you really do care.
  23. Stop wanting time to pass quicker than it is. That just makes it seem to pass slower. James Taylor said that the “Secret of Life” is enjoying the passage of time.
  24. Stop thinking black or white. It’s either this or that. The world has a lot of gray and in between stuff.
  25. Stop eating so much junk and stop drinking so much.
  26. Stop being so mean to your beautiful body regardless of how you think it looks.
  27. Stop arguing for your limitations. I won’t be convinced.
  28. Stop believing that there is nothing you can do about it. There is always something you can do about it. At the very least, you can change our perception.
  29. Stop believing that what always was, will always be.
  30. Stop saying that you will try. Yoda
  31. Stop trying to change people. Change yourself instead.
  32. Stop believing that God wants to punish you. She told me last week that you’re good at doing that all by yourself.
  33. Stop thinking that you deserve to be punished.
  34. Stop shoulding all over yourself. Instead of saying “I should,” say “I will.” Or better yet “I commit to…”
  35. Stop being so afraid. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
  36. Stop pretending that you have nothing to offer or contribute. If you’re still above ground, then you do.
  37. Stop being so afraid of other people. They are just YOU in a different body.
  38. Stop hanging out with people that want to keep you down. “It’s hard to soar like an eagle when you are running around with pigeons.” -Les Brown.
  39. Stop holding back what you need to express. It’s bad for digestion.
  40. Stop holding on so tightly. It’s making you constipated.
  41. Stop worrying about money. That’s why you don’t have more. Worry is the misuse of your imagination. See yourself as already abundant.
  42. Stop worrying that people will find out how smart, talented, gifted, funny, weird, nerdy, sentimental, warm and fuzzy and what a freak of nature you are. It takes all types, and it’s all good, my friend.
  43. Stop hiding your light under a basket. We need it now more than ever.

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p.s. Don’t believe everything I’ve just written here. Take what works and leave the rest behind.

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Out of My Head: July Recap – Dogs, Summer and Bare Feet – Episode 482


Out of My Head: July Recap – Dogs, Summer, and Bare feet – Episode 482
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Here we are in the dog days of summer…wait…why do we call it that?

What’s so great about walking barefoot in the grass?

What did the Ted in Your Head episodes in July talk about?

These question and more are answered in this episode.

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Today is August 1st so goodbye July.

Today I’ll recap the month’s episodes. I’ll also share obsessions, obstacles and observations that are in my head that you might find interesting (or not).

We are in the dog days of summer here in SoCal. (That’s short for Southern California for those listeners in faraway lands).  The term “dog days of summer” refers to the hottest, most humid period of the year, typically from early July to mid-August.

This period gets its name from the ancient Greeks and Romans, who associated the rising of the star Sirius (also known as the Dog Star) with the hottest part of summer.

My latest obsession is going outside and walking on the grass barefoot. Up until recently I hadn’t done that for many, many years. It was interesting to feel how warm the ground is on a summer’s day.

Grounding, also known as earthing, is a practice that involves making direct contact with the Earth’s surface. This can be done by walking barefoot on grass, soil, or sand, swimming in natural bodies of water, or using a grounding mat (whatever that is).

The theory behind grounding is that the Earth has a negative electrical charge that can be transferred to the body through physical contact. This transfer of electrons is thought to have various health benefits.

I admit, I know nothing about any of that, but it sure feels good to walk barefoot on the grass in summer.

I’ve also been trying to sit on my porch every evening and watching the day go away and the dusk descend, almost always ushered in by a falling night’s breeze causing the trees to wave “Good-bye day! See ya tomorrow.”

We started July with “Don’t Let Them In! Five Steps for Keeping the Mental Mischief Makers

Away” That was episode 479 in which I tell a funny story from my book about some unsavory characters I used to let into my house. They were nothing but trouble and one day I finally told them to get lost and not come back. Interestingly, when they stopped coming around, the neighborhood improved tremendously, and a better quality of characters started coming around. Who are those mental mischief makers? Check out the episode to find out.

Episode 480 was Why You will Never Get Motivated.

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The Top 10 Reasons Why You Should Try Hypnotherapy – Episode 481

Why should you try hypnotherapy? What will it do for you? Is it safe? How does it work? Is there any risk?

For a modality that is so powerful and effective, it’s unfortunate that so many people have so many misperceptions about hypnosis and hypnotherapy.

In this episode, Ted explains clearly and simply why hypnotherapy is something you should try. Whether you want to quit smoking, be more confident, let go of bad habits or just take a break from stress or manage anxiety, hypnotherapy can be effective and powerful. Check it out or share with someone you think might benefit.

 

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Greetings!

What do we seek? I would suggest that we all seek liberation or freedom.

In my work, we seek to liberate ourselves from lack, limitation and lethargy, so that we can intentionally pursue a powerful path of personal transformation.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is what it’s all about: personal transformation, done intentionally. It’s important to understand that we will transform, from young to old, from more energetic to less. As we get older, we will change.

But the question is, are you going to change in the direction that you want to, or will you change by default? Without the intention of being better, then you might become more cynical, maybe more tired, more pessimistic, especially in the face of today’s national situation.

We seek freedom, freedom to be able to make the choice to do better, think better, be better. Hypnotherapy is an excellent tool to make that happen.

So here are the top 10 reasons why you should try hypnotherapy. Yes, a little shameless plug for what I do. Let’s get right into it.

  1. Number one reason why you should try hypnotherapy: You’re already in hypnosis daily. Why not make it work for you?

We have this thing called suggestibility. It’s how we learn. Hypnosis is the ultimate learning state. When we’re kids, up until about eight or nine years old, we are very suggestible. Our minds are open. People will tell us all kinds of stuff, about Santa Claus, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, and we’ll believe it. That’s when we learn a lot. Because our minds are open, we’re very suggestible.

That changes at about eight or nine years old because we develop another part of our mind called the critical faculty. What does that do? It allows us to ask questions and block incoming information, so we don’t learn as quickly, because now we have to consider stuff, think about it, judge its merits, and see if it’s true. When you are in the state of hypnosis, your mind is once again open to the power of suggestion, and when you go in for a hypnotherapy session, you’re telling me, your Friendly Neighborhood Hypnotherapist, “I want this to happen. These are my goals. These are the suggestions that I need.”

So we put you into that hypnotic state, a state of suggestibility, so that your mind becomes open to the suggestions that I will give you based on what you’ve told me you want.

We go into hypnosis every single day of our lives. We’re in hypnosis when we first wake up. How many people, when they first wake up have negative thoughts of worry or anxiety? So here you are in a suggestible state, giving yourself negative suggestions. That doesn’t work very well if you want to have a good day, and that’s why anxiety and fear and worry have a tendency to become self-reinforcing.

Another example of common everyday hypnosis is when you’re driving your car and you’re not paying attention and you miss your off ramp or miss your turn. You’re in a trance state, although it’s a fairly benign trance state.(Most of the time.)

Another example would be when you close your eyes, you put in your ear buds, and you listen to your favorite music. You get carried away by that wonderful feeling of the words and the sounds, a wonderful example of trance.

But there are examples that aren’t so wonderful. For example, you’re overwhelmed. You’re stressed. Things aren’t going your way. This overwhelm can put you into what we might call environmental hypnosis, which is a walking hypnotic state where, again, your mind is thinking all kinds of terrible things, like, ah, this sucks. I wish this didn’t happen. What’s wrong with me? Why did I make that mistake? Blah, blah, blah. And here we are in that suggestible state, again, giving ourselves negative suggestions.

So if hypnosis is a natural state, and if hypnosis is the ultimate learning state, why not put it to work for you? So that’s reason number one.

  1. Reason number two, hypnotherapy is safe and noninvasive when administered by a professional hypnotherapist, such as yours truly. There really aren’t any negative side effects from a hypnotherapy session. Remember, when you’re in hypnosis, you are awake, aware and fully in control.

Now that being said, sometimes when people come out of their first hypnotherapy session, they may feel a little headache. That is not common, but it does happen. Or sometimes people feel kind of a little bit out of it because they were in hypnosis. Typically, right after the first hypnosis session, and just for a few minutes.

Now, for people with severe mental issues, hypnotherapy is not appropriate or recommended.

We want to be really careful working with people with severe trauma using hypnotherapy. When working with somebody that has trauma, you need a hypnotherapist that knows about how to work with people in trauma.

In addition, many people will come to me and say, hey, help me remember this thing that I think happened to me when I was a kid. That’s not something I do, because what can happen is what’s called confabulation. In other words, memories may come up that may or may not be true. So as a rule, myself, as a hypnotherapist, I usually don’t help people to access memories that they think they might have had, because there’s no way of knowing whether these memories are true or not.

So with the exception of these rare examples, hypnotherapy is safe. It’s noninvasive, it’s natural, and it taps into a natural part of your own ability to learn. That was number two.

  1. Number three reason why you should try hypnotherapy: It’s not like what you see in TVs and movies. Those television shows and movies that portray hypnosis as scary are just not good for business.

Hey, look, I thought the movie Get Out was awesome, but it’s not an accurate representation of how hypnosis works. When you’re in hypnosis, you are not under somebody’s control. Remember, you’re awake, you’re aware, you’re fully in control, and you’re hearing everything the hypnotherapist is telling you. Many people, when they’re in their first hypnotherapy session, are thinking to themselves, “Hmm, I wonder if I’m really in hypnosis?”  If you have that thought, it usually means you are.

Hypnotherapy uses the tool of hypnosis to create that state of suggestibility. When you’re in hypnosis, you’re hearing everything that’s being said. Almost everyone, when they come out of hypnosis, feel refreshed, feel good and feel very, very relaxed.

Hypnosis is very, very relaxing when done in a hypnotherapeutic situation. So forget everything you’ve seen on TVs and movies where “You are under my control!” It’s just well…TVs and movies. Okay, so that was number three.

  1. Number four, we are accessing the subconscious mind when we do hypnotherapy. You have two parts of your mind, you have your conscious mind, let’s say that’s 12% of your total mind power. Now, there’s different theories about this. Some say, some people say 10% conscious, 90% subconscious. We’re just going to say 12% conscious mind, 88% subconscious mind. It’s the 12% of your mind that has goals, dreams, desires, and things you want to accomplish. But it could be that you have in the 88% of your mind things such as associations or beliefs that are contrary to what you want to accomplish.

So for example, let’s say 12% of your mind wants to increase your income and make more money. But if at the subconscious level, you have beliefs, or you been told that the pursuit of money is sinful, or having lots of money is evil, then that 88% will keep you from achieving your goals, dreams and desires.

Using hypnotherapy, we can begin to change those things in that 88% subconscious mind that are not supporting your conscious goals, dreams and desires.

I’m reminded of a very interesting story that I heard when I was in my training at the hypnotherapy college, HMI. It was about a young woman who went for hypnotherapy sessions because every time she got into a relationship and was very close to making it permanent, such as marriage, she would sabotage it. This had happened two or three times, so she went to seek hypnotherapy. It turns out that she was involved in the movie industry, a producer or kind of behind the camera, but she liked to date and go out with actors. Through investigation and through conversation, she remembered that her mother, who had been married to an actor, would tell her when she was very young, whatever you do, don’t marry an actor, whatever you do, don’t marry an actor.

She had forgotten about that, yet these suggestions were still at play in her subconscious mind, causing her to sabotage any relationship she had with somebody who was acting in front of the camera.

That’s a perfect example of somebody that needed the power of suggestion to go in there and change that up so she could have healthier, longer lasting, maybe even more permanent, relationship.

That was number four, we can access the subconscious mind using the tool of hypnosis in hypnotherapy.

  1. Number five, hypnotherapy can help you sleep better. This is something that I’m very interested in and have a lot of experience working with. You can see the video on YouTube, go to com/insomnia. It’s a YouTube video of me working with a flight attendant who was really struggling with insomnia.

There’s a current article in The Atlantic Magazine. It’s an extensive article about the epidemic of sleep problems in our society today, truly, a health epidemic.

Why does hypnotherapy help you sleep better? The reason is because hypnosis is what is known as a venting state. When you’re in hypnosis, in a hypnotherapeutic situation, your mind and your body has an opportunity to vent out or let go of stress, tension, pressure and negativity. These are the things that build up in the body that keep people from sleeping. If you try to go to sleep and you’re all wound up and tight and anxious, it’s going to be very difficult to sleep.

Many people, the minute they put their head on the pillow, have the bad habit of trying to solve the problems in their life. That will keep you from sleeping as well, because that’s not a good time to try to solve all your problems. Not only that, but at that time, again, you are very suggestible. Your mind is open right before you fall asleep, so that is not a good time to worry or try to figure out how you’re going to solve this big problem.

Hypnotherapy allows a person to sleep better, even if that’s not what they’re coming for. What I mean by that is, I work with a lot of people that are not coming to me necessarily for insomnia, but they’ll come into the second or third session and say, “One thing I noticed is I’m sleeping a lot better”.

That’s because if they’re listening to the recording I make for them, then they’re having the opportunity to vent out tensions, stresses, anxieties and fears that could keep a person from sleeping well and in a refreshing manner throughout the night.

So that was number five, increase sleep quality.

  1. Number six, to decrease stress and overwhelm.

Think about a boiling pot of water like a teapot, right? Typically, a teapot has a little cap, and the little cap has a hole in it, and when the water starts boiling, the pressure of the steam goes through that little hole, and it makes a noise like a whistling teapot. Because pressure is building up inside, and that allows the pressure to be released. So there’s a certain capacity, and there needs to be a release of what is going on inside.

The human mind is the same way: we can only take so much stress, we can only take so much tension, have so many worries about what we have to do before things start getting messy. Like a cup that is already filled, you cannot put more into that cup until you empty out what is already in there.

What hypnotherapy allows a person to do is to vent out and let go of everything that’s built up, maybe through the day or from the week or even from the month. This build up can turn into overwhelm: when there’s too many things to think about, too many things to do, too many things to worry about. And I think we can both agree that our life today is extremely overwhelming. There are so many things we need to be concerned about and think about and worry about, especially if you’re watching the news or involved in following politics.

When we’re overwhelmed, the fight, flight response gets triggered, and that’s when we start feeling anxiety. We go into what is known as a hyper- suggestible state: again, a state of hypnosis where we are totally and completely open to not only our negativity, but the negativity of the world around us.

Hypnotherapy allows a person, in 20 minutes, a chance to vent out and release everything that’s been building up; a release of worries, a release of fears, a release of anxiety. This can happen very powerfully in a very short period of time, and the only other time your body has an opportunity to do that is when you’re asleep, assuming that you’re getting good sleep.

So that would be number six reason to try hypnotherapy is to decrease stress and overwhelm.

  1. Number seven is to change bad habits. I’m sure you’re familiar with people going to a hypnotherapist to quit smoking or lose weight. These are, in fact, the top two reasons why people go to a hypnotherapist: to free themselves from nicotine addiction, either smoking or vaping and to lose or manage weight.

Also, help with quitting or managing marijuana and alcohol use. In addition, bad habits such as nail biting.

But bad habits could also be poor habits of thinking, such as catastrophizing, negative thinking, and pessimism. These are all habits of the mind. Habits are considered automatic, subconscious or unconscious behaviors. Hypnotherapy allows a person to examine these unconscious behaviors, begin to work on changing them and get the added benefit of new ideas, new behaviors and new compelling outcomes at the level of the subconscious mind.

It’s important at this point to mention the fact that our minds like and are attracted to the known and the familiar. The known and the familiar is safe. Our subconscious minds like what we know, what we can expect and what we’re used to because that represents safety. Our minds don’t like to change. Change represents something new, something different, something unknown, and our minds will go through a lot to keep us from what is unknown. Again, our minds do not want to change.

So when you’re in hypnosis, in a hypnotherapeutic situation, you can visualize, you can imagine and you can pretend what it would be like to achieve your goal, to achieve your outcome. This creates more familiarity in your mind with your outcome or goal, and through the process of repetition and maybe using affirmations and the power of suggestion and visualization, you can get your mind to become much more comfortable and much more familiar with the things that you want and the outcomes you want to see.

When that happens, your mind starts moving you in that direction because you’re your desire is known, familiar and comfortable to your mind. And since that’s more compelling than what’s going on for you right now, you begin to notice that you’re thinking in a way that could be called a  success mindset, as well as doing the behaviors and taking actions that move you towards greater success, health and happiness.

When we talk about a bad habit, it’s something that’s familiar and comfortable even if you don’t like it. Hypnotherapy can help you change that.

  1. Number eight: increasing confidence and self esteem.

Where do we learn self-esteem? Where do we learn self-value? For most of us, we learn it as children. It is given to us by our caretakers, in the way they relate to us, the attention they give us, the things that they tell us. Unfortunately for many of us, we didn’t have the attention that we needed as children. We didn’t have the support or encouragement or maybe even more damaging, we were criticized or told we weren’t going to amount to anything, or told, maybe tragically, we’re no good.

This is very, very detrimental to our ability to succeed. It’s very damaging to our ability to go out there and make our way in the world, because the fundamental belief is “I’m not going to be able to do anything because I’m a loser”, or “I’m no good at this”, or “I’m not smart enough”, or whatever the programming is in the subconscious mind. It can be very powerful if it was repeated for many, many years. We begin to believe it ourselves, even though consciously we may know it’s not true. The subconscious mind is where many of these fundamental beliefs are held, and those will dictate and drive and influence our behavior.

Through the power of suggestion, we can increase our self-confidence and cultivate the belief that we have the ability, the capability, the intellect, and the resourcefulness to figure stuff out.

I know some people, they would say something like, “Oh, I’m going to go backpacking in Europe. And I’d be like, “Oh, where are you going to stay?”  And they’re like, “I don’t know. I’ll figure it out.”

Or I’ll ask: “Are you going to with a lot of money.” And they’ll say “No, I’m going to go with a little bit of money, but I’ll get a job there.”

“Well, how are you going to get a job?“ They’ll say something like “Oh, I’ll figure it out.”

That’s never something I would do: just go backpacking in Europe without a plan, like a detailed plan. But there are a lot of people that believe that they can figure it out. That’s the kind of confidence we’re looking for. So maybe we don’t want to backpack in Europe, but when we try something new, or take a risk, or even encounter everyday challenges, we want to have that belief in our mind: “You know what? I can figure this out. I have the resources, the intellect and I’m worth putting time and effort into!”

That can be accomplished using the tool of hypnosis in hypnotherapy.

  1. Number nine, we can increase health and well being. It’s almost a cliché that the number one unhealthy thing that we have in our lives is stress and hyper tension.

From the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed at night, it’s:

“I have to, I have to, I need to, I need to, I’ve got to, I’ve got to, I’ve got to be on schedule. I’ve got to be there on time…”

This creates stress and tension in the body, and if you don’t have time to take a vacation, or you’re not in the habit of taking down time, like I’ve talked about in many previous podcasts, then that tension, that stress, will build up in your body and create a whole host of negative physiological manifestations such as back aches, headaches, stomach problems, hypertension, narrowing of arteries, and it may lead to eating habits where you seek to soothe yourself, or drinking habits where you’re seeking to medicate yourself from the tension and stress of the day.

Hypnotherapy allows us to deal with the challenges of life much more easily, much more calmly. The power of suggestion can help us believe that no problem is insurmountable and that we should and need to take good care of ourselves.

Many, many people come to me asking me, please, help me take better care of me. Help me get better sleep. Help me eat better. Help me take more time to spend with my loved ones.

Increased health and wellbeing is one of the biggest reasons, if not the biggest reason, people come to me seeking hypnotherapy.

  1. Finally, the number ten reason why you should try hypnotherapy is because many, many people that are successful and well known have used it for great success, health and happiness.

If you do a quick search on the internet, there is a long list of famous people that have used hypnosis. Now, I can’t vouch for every name that’s out there, but I did do a search on people that have admitted or acknowledged that hypnotherapy has been helpful to them. Some of the names that came up were Adele, the singer, for stage fright and anxiety, Matt Damon for quitting smoking, Tiger Woods for focus and self-belief, and Aaron Eckhart for quitting smoking and drinking.

Again, this was on the internet. I can’t vouch that it’s true, and I really don’t want to take the time to try find the person on video or the actual quote saying that they said this. But there’s a whole long list of people.

Supposedly, Einstein was a big fan of hypnosis. Thomas Edison as well, so you can go and you can read about the many people that have used hypnotherapy and hypnosis for success, health and greater abundance.

I would suggest to you that anybody that has closed their eyes and imagined what they wanted and who they wanted to be, has used hypnosis. Mental rehearsal, before you go out and perform, or before you go out and involve yourself in an athletic competition, that is a form of hypnosis as well.

You close your eyes, you imagine hitting the ball, kicking the ball, catching the ball. Guided imagery, mental rehearsal, positive visualization, all just hypnosis by other names, and some people have figured out how to tap into the power of their mind. Most super successful people have figured out a way to tap into their subconscious mind so they can program their own minds for success and abundance. And of course, one of the great ways to do that is learning self-hypnosis, which I highly recommend. I may do something in the future such as teaching some classes online about self-hypnosis.  If that sounds like something you want to see, please get in touch with me and let me know. If I get a bunch of people saying, Yes, I want to learn self-hypnosis, that would be a huge inducement to me to see if I can make that happen.

There you go. The top 10 reasons to at least try hypnotherapy. Now, if you’re listening to this and you already know that, and you’re already a client of mine, or if you’ve already experienced hypnotherapy, great, good for you. Pass this along to somebody you know that can use this information.

That’s what I have for you today. I hope you found this helpful. Thank you so much for tuning into my podcast.

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Thanks so much for tuning in. I hope you enjoyed today’s episode. Take good care of yourself, and if you can, take good care of someone else as well.

Ted

Why You Will Never Get Motivated – Episode 480

Ted reads another chapter from his book The Ultimate Guide to Letting Go of Negative and Fear and Loving Life. (available on Amazon.com)

Are you trying to get motivated? It’s not going to happen. Motivation is not something you get. Ted tells the funny story of how he figured that out as well as what it takes to be motivated.  

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I’ll never forget the time that I got instant motivation. For a while I’d been trying to find the motivation to get started on all the things I wanted to do.  I’d be sitting in front of the television thinking “If only I could find the motivation to get off this couch, my life would be a lot better.” I felt depressed and unmotivated.

One day while watching Family Guy and eating Captain Crunch cereal, someone knocked at my door. Too tired to get up, I shouted Come in!” The UPS guy ran in with a package and dropped it right in my lap.

I was too tired to get up and a get a knife to open the package, so during the commercial breaks I used my spoon to saw through the tape. I pulled out the packing peanuts to uncover a strange glow wrapped up in some paper. I unwrapped the paper and to my surprise, it was a box of motivation! I finally had some!

I jumped right up and cleaned the house. Then I wrote up my resume and went out and found my dream job. The money started rolling in. I started working out regularly, got real buff, and started dating a model. I learned to play guitar and joined a band. We made a record and went on a whirlwind European tour that included staying at expensive hotels and fine dining at the fanciest…

I awoke to the opening tune of SpongeBob SquarePants. My bowl of Captain Crunch was all over my lap. It was just a dream.

“God, I have no energy and I’m so unmotivated!” I said.

The minute I said that, my eyes got real droopy. I thought about taking a nap right then and there, but the thought of Captain Crunch all dried and crumbly on my pants was more than I could bear. I jumped up and shouted “NO!” I’m 32 years old! When is my life going to start?”

Then I noticed something interesting. Just standing up and shouting gave me some energy! I found some paper and a crayon and wrote down my discovery: “Movement = energy = motivation.”

I realized that to be motivated, I had to cultivate more energy.

I realized something else: the minute I said, “I have no energy and I’m so unmotivated”, I felt immediately felt tired and unmotivated! I wrote down this realization as well. “Whatever I say, my mind will obey. Motivational and energetic language = motivation.”

I have a confession. This was not the first time I had fallen asleep while eating sugary cereal. One time I awoke on the couch to find my mouth open with unchewed Cocoa Puffs. I swear I thought I saw a fly flying away. It seemed that every time I ate a lot of sugar I got sleepy. I got my crayon and wrote this down: “Good nutrition = energy and motivation.”

I was feeling a bit motivated now. I felt the stirring of energy inside me.  I decided to make a list of some things I would do with my growing motivation:

  1. Change pants
  2. Take all 12 cereal bowls off the coffee table and put them in sink.
  3. Wash dishes while listening to Rush’s “Moving Pictures” album really loud
  4. Sort through the three-week-old pile of mail

Now I had some direction; some things I wanted to do. Curiously, this gave me even more energy and motivation. I had another insight and wrote this down: “Having a plan = motivation.”

I was sorting through my mail when I came across a letter from the landlord. “Ted, you are a month late on the rent. If you don’t pay the rent by this Friday, I will evict you. Signed, Your Landlord. (p.s. Judging by the overflowing garbage cans in your yard you obviously have enough money for a wide variety of cold cereal, cookies, and pastries. Suggestion: get a life.)”

The nerve! I was annoyed but also majorly freaked out. Eviction! How could I pay the rent on time if Wendy’s wouldn’t give me a raise?  I would have to find a better paying job and fast. I took the abandoned bird’s nest out of the spokes of my bicycle and rode down to the mall and collected a bunch of applications. When I got home, I wrote this down: “Purpose = energy and motivation”

I filled out a bunch of applications to drop off the next morning.

It had been a busy day so I was feeling stressed out and tired. I wanted to sit in front of the tube.  I played my guitar instead and that energized me. I read a book and that was relaxing. I felt a calm energy now. Before I went to bed at 10:30 pm, I wrote down two things: “Fun and de-stressing = energy”

The next day I woke up at 6:30. I felt refreshed.  I scribbled “Good Sleep = Good energy and motivation”. Out of habit I turned on the news: The Economy. The War. Terrorists. Floods. Car Accidents. I turned off the television, unplugged it and stomped on the remote. It occurred to me that compared to most of the world, I had a pretty good life. I was healthy, I had a place to live, and I had opportunity and freedom to take advantage of my luck if I chose to. There was nobody bombing my house or my city. I felt blessed and was moved by this feeling. I wrote down “Gratitude = energy and motivation”.

I eventually took all my insights and made a sign that I hung on my wall:

“I Am Energetic and Motivated”

  • I have abundant energy and motivation because I move my body by walking daily.
  • I have abundant energy and motivation because I say that I do. I refuse to say the opposite.
  • I have abundant energy and motivation because I have an energy producing diet.
  • I have abundant energy and motivation because I have a plan.
  • I have abundant energy and motivation because I have a purpose.
  • I have abundant energy and motivation because I have a good balance of work, play and relaxation.
  • I have abundant energy and motivation because I manage my stress.
  • I have abundant energy and motivation because I get enough sleep.
  • I have abundant energy and motivation because I focus on what is right with my life and I am grateful.

I started reading this every morning out loud because it energized and motivated me.

Having motivation doesn’t always mean wanting to do something. Real motivation is the ability to do something even if you don’t feel like doing it.

You will never get motivated. Nothing can give you motivation except maybe  the imminent prospect of catastrophe and you don’t want to wait for that. YOU MUST DEVELOP THE HABIT OF GENERATING MOTIVATION AND ENERGY. You must learn to create it. It must come from inside of you.

Today, at 65, I’m grateful that I have a lot of energy and motivation. I’ve found a sleep schedule that works for me (10:30-6). I walk every morning, stretch every day and work out two days a week.

I’m very conscious of how valuable time is. I have a purpose, I try to have a daily plan, and I have written down goals. I never, ever say I’m tired unless I’m ready to go to bed. If a health issue comes up and I feel low on energy, I get my butt to my doctor, my chiropractor, and my acupuncturist, and get it back. I do everything I can to keep my stress level manageable. I try to stay connected with the people I love. And most importantly, I cultivate the attitude of gratitude every day.

“Energy will do anything that can be done in the world; and no talents, no circumstances, no opportunities will make a two-legged animal a man without it.”

~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing, that’s why we recommend it daily.” – Zig Ziglar

(Disclaimer: With the exception of the last paragraph, the preceding story is for educational purposes only and is mostly a work of fiction. To the best of my recollection, I have never fallen asleep with unchewed breakfast cereal of any brand in my mouth. However, I did once have to remove a bird’s nest from the spokes of my bike. Also, I really liked working at Wendy’s and they always paid me well.)

Thanks for reading this!

Ted

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Don’t Let Them In! Five Steps for Keeping the Mental Mischief Makers Away – Episode 479

In this episode, Ted reads a chapter from his book The Ultimate Guide to Letting Go of Negative and Fear and Loving Life. (available on Amazon.com)

Who are the Mental Mischief Makers? Negativity, Resignation, Cynicism, and Despair to name a few. Once you let them into the house of your mind, they are hard to get rid of and will create trouble while keeping you from your goals, dreams, and desires.

Chance are they are already in your house! Time to throw them out and make room for Possibility, Hope and Courage! Ted gives some ideas on how to do that.

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I hate to admit this to you, but when I was younger and much more foolish, I used to open my door to some pretty unsavory characters.

They weren’t even very likable; I just got comfortable having them around. They were familiar and I knew what to expect from them. And they didn’t ask much of me. I didn’t realize until much later how much hanging around with them was holding me back from what I knew I could be.

One day, while I was reading book (Real Magic, a life changer) by Dr.Wayne Dyer, the first self-development author I ever read, there was a knock on the door.

I opened the door to find Cynicism, someone I knew very well, standing there. I was dismayed to see that he had brought Negativity with him, who I really despised, especially since he was always wearing that dumb “I’m With Stupid” T-shirt.

“Hey dude. It’s another crappy day. Perfect day for getting messed up”, Cynicism said. I noticed he had brought along a six pack of his favorite beverage, Notwiser Light.

I don’t know why, maybe it was the Dyer book, but I said “Sorry guys, not today”.

Negativity stepped forward and whined “Don’t be like that, homey! Let’s throw back a few and complain about the system!”

I hate being called homey. “No”, I said. “You guys get outta here. Now. I’m busy.”

They shuffled off, Cynicism grumbling “Thinks he’s too good now…”

I sat back down and felt weird. This was uncomfortable for me. I’ve always been a “nice” guy. I pretty much let in whoever wanted to come in and let them stay as long as they want.

Right then, there was another knock at the door. I got up irritated, and threw open the door expecting Negativity and Cynicism but instead, Possibility was standing there. I’d seen her a couple of times but didn’t really know her too well. “Hey”, she said. “I thought I would drop by since I was in the neighborhood. Mind if I come in?”

“Sure”, I replied. “But tell me, what kept you from coming by before?”

“I’ve tried” she said.  “But I make it a point not to hang out with those other two clowns who just left.”

Cynicism and Negativity still come by and knock, but most of the time I just don’t open the door and pretty soon they go away. The odd times that I do let them in is because I’m too tired to say “Get lost” but I make sure they don’t stay very long. I haven’t seen Resignation and Despair in a while. I gave Fear the key to my place one time but I’m in the process of changing the locks. More and more, I find myself entertaining Possibility, who is always welcome, along with Hope, Belief, and Courage. Needless to say, life is much better.

Here are five simple steps to keep those Mental Mischief Makers (MMMs) from massively messing with your mind.

Stop Complaining. The MMMs are attracted to complaining like ants to sugar. They seem to have some special radar to help them find complainers. First, they’ll allow you to feel justified, and then they’ll move in and take over the place.

Plant gratitude outside your front door. You know how some animals will not come into your garden if you have the right herbs planted to keep them from eating your veggies? Gratitude is repellent to Negativity and in large enough amounts does a great job of keeping the other jokers away too.

Take regular Inspiration Vacations. Read, hear, and see things that inspire you. You don’t need to leave your house! Books, inspirational movies, hobbies, creativity, music or local places of beauty and serenity are necessary for a healthy attitude. There’s no way that you will even hear those troublemakers knock if you’re involved in something that lifts you up and inspires you. Keep your mind in that place where your highest ideals reside.

Use Incantations. These are the magic spells that keep Negativity, Resignation, Fear, Cynicism, Doubt, and Despair away. Incantations are what you say to yourself to create what you want. Examples: I can do this, I have what it takes, I am up to this challenge, I am attracting money easily, creativity flows through me. To make them really powerful, write them down and put them near a candle and light it. Seriously, I’m not kidding. Say these things a hundred times a day. Really. Or at the very least, say 3 or 4 first thing in the morning within a half hour of waking up. This is the “Magic 30 Minutes” where your mind is very open to what you tell yourself.

In closing, always be up to something. If you are up to stuff, making stuff happen, dreaming, hoping, planning, taking action, then you will be too busy for those pesky MMMs when they come to visit.  You’ll see them for what they are: a distraction and a diversion from making your unique contribution to life.

Be a good gatekeeper for what you allow into your life and mind. Do what you can to keep toxic thoughts, toxic people, and toxic experiences out of your life.

Hypnotherapy is an excellent modality for releasing negative thoughts, feelings and emotions and using the power of suggestion to create a mindset that allows you to think better, do better and feeling better.

I invite you to request a complimentary phone consultation by contacting me at http://tedmoreno.com/contact. We’ll discuss your challenges, answer any of your questions and see if hypnotherapy is right for you. If it is, we’ll get started with your first hypnotherapy session.

Just a reminder, you can get my book here: www.TedMoreno.com/tedsbook

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Thank you for being here and reading this!

Ted

 

 

Out of My Head: June Recap Episode 478

 

 

In this episode, Ted recaps the Ted in Your Head Podcast episodes for June 2025.

He also discusses various observations, obstacles, and obsessions that are in his head that you might identify with.

 

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Here we are at the end of June. It’s been quite a busy month.

I’ve decided to end each month with a podcast that recaps not only the episodes that I’ve dropped for that month, but also with a discussion of observations, obstacles and obsessions that are in my head that you might resonate with.

The first episode of June was 475, “I Have Become…Numb.” I was jamming with a buddy to Comfortably Numb, A Pink Floyd song from the album The Wall. I was intrigued by the lyrics do did a deep dive into the origin of the song and came to understand that the song describes a tendency we all have which is to “check out” or become numb when confronted with the challenges and obstacles we face in life. There are many ways to numb ourselves, but the problem is that we end up numbing ourselves to the joy of life as well.

Episode 476 was my interview with Rohini Walker, mentor, consultant and writer about such things as soul-body liberation.

This episode had one of the most interesting interviews I’ve ever done as far as my own resonance with the subject matter, which I would say is liberating oneself from the hypnosis of our culture as well as cultivating a greater connection not only with the physical body but with the body’s native wisdom. Rohini just dropped the first three episodes of her podcast called Root + Rise which I really enjoyed and recommend that you check it out too. Her content is excellent as well as her delivery.

Episode 477 addressed “The Hidden Fear that You May Have but Don’t Know It.” I’ll spill the beans: it’s the fear of stopping, pausing, resting, being still, and doing nothing. I discuss how this obsessive need to always be doing something can result in burnout, fatigue, and anxiety.

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Moving on to observations, obstacles and obsessions:

I’ve been on a news and social media fast since last Friday and it feels so good that I may do it for another week. I do admit that I scan the headlines once a day but am refraining from reading commercial news sources, listening to the news, and listening to podcasts or watching videos about politics. I haven’t decided how I will consume social media and the news when I come off this break, but I am much more aware of how overwhelming this glut of information is and how it makes me feel. I suggest you try a news fast, a break from social media or both.

Remember that many commercial news outlets are not trying to give you information but influence your point of view. This is a form of hypnosis. And not the good kind. I’ll be doing a podcast soon about the hypnosis of our culture.

This month I’m being called to pay attention to the subject of transitions. I find it interesting how these topics come in waves, alerting me to pay more attention to certain life challenges.  June is a month of transition. Not only the transition to summer, but transitions like graduations. I have a child graduating from high school, but also one graduating from community college with the prospect of both going off to live away from home.

I hadn’t realized how this transition was affecting me until I had other people, both clients and personal relations, discuss with me the challenges they were having from their own transitions.

One person contacted me seeking support for caregiver burnout. The transition was from being a married person to being a caretaker of an aging spouse who is at the end of life. They spoke of overwhelm, resentment and the inability to  take care of themselves.

Another person I spoke with is looking at the prospect of closing a business they’ve had for over 50 years and possibly selling their house.

These life transitions can be quite difficult to navigate. Our subconscious mind likes things to stay the same. It doesn’t want to change but we all know that the only constant is change. The key is to stay centered and grounded in our bodies, accept the change, and move through fear without the tendency to catastrophize. I’ll be doing a podcast on this subject soon.

My latest obsession, if you want to call it that, is the series True Detective. I’ve just finished the first season and it’s quite good. I try to limit my television viewing to 3 or four hours a week. I don’t binge and I only watch one thing at a time.

What I prefer to do in the evenings is read. I’m currently reading two books that I’ve read before and I’m sure I will continue to re-read into the future.

One is a famous book from 1972 by Carlos Castaneda titled Journey to Ixtlan, The Lessons of Don Juan. If you are not familiar with the books of Carlos Castaneda and you are interested in shamanism and indigenous wisdom or into just a really good read, check out Castaneda’s books. There is so much to say about them, I won’t go into here, but Castaneda caused quite a sensation with these books in the late 60s and early 70s.

The other book is by a guy who goes by the name of Jed McKenna, called Spiritually Incorrect Enlightenment. This book is part of a trilogy of books that McKenna has written on enlightenment or what he calls truth realization. However, it is very much not a warm and fuzzy candles and incense approach to Truth. It is more of an invitation to set everything on fire and see what is left that is True. Intriguing? Yes, but also very confronting.

One final observation: as I was on my walk around the local lake, I spotted a group of runners running up a very steep hill. Someone was shouting at them to keep running so I’m guessing it was a local high school cross country team in training.

It reminded me of when I ran cross country in high school and trained by running up steep hills over and over again. Our team went on to become the one of the best cross country teams in California. That training, as hard as it was, gave me an incredible confidence in my body and the ability to have endurance in all areas of my life. But I owe it all to the two coaches I had because they believed in my ability to do things that I didn’t believe I could. And I did.

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“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

Mark Twain said that.

Thank you for being here!

Ted

The Hidden Fear You Might Have But Don’t Know It – Episode 477

Are you super productive and proud of it? Do people tell you that you are always busy doing something? Great!

However, when you stop, slow down, or pause, do you feel anxiety, fear, or guilt? If so, you may have a hidden fear of slowing down or relaxing.

There is a term called Hurry Sickness, which is the feeling of being constantly rushed and stressed.

There is also such a thing called Doing Addiction: always needing to be doing something.

These are just two reasons why you might feel anxious, guilty and have great resistance to pausing, stopping, resting or relaxing. There are others.

In this episode, Ted talks about a fear that you might not even know you have. This fear can control you, push you, and create overwhelm, fatigue and illness. If there is something telling you that if you pause, relax or take time off it might create a catastrophe, then take the time to check out this podcast episode.

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Someone asked me recently “What’s your podcast about? Is it about hypnosis?”

I thought to myself, “It’s not really about hypnosis…”

That’s the tool that I use as a hypnotherapist to help people, but the podcast is not really about that. I had to sit down and think about and articulate what my podcast is about.

And so this is what I came up with:

In the Ted in Your Head podcast, we seek to liberate ourselves from the negative hypnosis of lack, limitation, and lethargy, and intentionally pursue a powerful path of personal transformation.”

So that’s what I’ve got. I meant it, I said it, and I’m here to represent it.

Speaking of hypnosis, as a hypnotherapist, I work in many different areas: anxiety, breaking bad habits, greater motivation etc. If you feel that you can use some support, you can reach out to me at TedMoreno.com/contact and request a complimentary phone consultation.

Let’s get into our topic of conversation, the hidden fear that you might have but don’t know it.

Let me begin by explaining that many people come to me for a lot of the same reasons.

  • They’re overwhelmed.
  • They’ve got too many things to think about
  • They’ve got too many things to do.
  • They’re highly stressed, and this is impacting their stomach or it’s keeping them from sleeping.
  • They are experiencing anxiety, confusion, worry and uncertainty.

These are the kind of main things that people come to me for help with. And of course, hypnosis is the main tool that I use. It’s a powerful tool, and very effective. When somebody leaves my office, they feel better than when they walked in; more calm, more relaxed, more at ease. But in a typical hypnotherapy session, I also give my clients recommendations. Of course, one of the recommendations I give them is to slow down, take more breaks, get better sleep, sit outside, watch the sunrise, chill out a bit, right?

This is a good prescription, I think, for much of what ails us in our modern society. But lately, I’ve had a wave of clients coming in saying to me “I tried to do what you recommended. I tried to relax, I tried to take more breaks, but I noticed that when I slow down, I feel fear. I feel anxiety.”

They have a fear of slowing down, and that’s the hidden fear that I want to talk to you about today. It seems to be an epidemic these days, of people that are just afraid of slowing down, or when they stop or take a break or slow down, a lot of anxiety comes up. Why is that?

As I was doing the research for this podcast, I found two very interesting terms that I hadn’t heard before. The first one is hurry sickness. What is hurry sickness? It’s the feeling of being constantly rushed and stressed. It’s not a real sickness, but it is a condition that we can feel quite often. Obviously stress and worry is all mixed up in this hurry sickness.

“I’ve got to accomplish all these things. I’ve got to make this happen. I’ve got to do this, I’ve got to do that, got to take care of the kids, got to do the job, got to maintain the house!”

It’s that feeling of “I’ve got to, I have to, I’ve got to, I have to.”

The hyper awareness of time is another aspect of this: “Oh, look at the clock. I’ve only got so much time to accomplish this. Oh no, is it really 7pm already?”

Can you feel that in your body right now, as I describe it? The feeling that time is your enemy, and there’s not enough time to get stuff done, so consequently, there’s a fear of falling behind.

I had somebody call me just last night and say, I’m so busy. I’m really afraid of falling behind. I really need to catch up.”

What I told this person is that it’s important to understand that you’ll never catch up. You’re not going to at one point, lean back in your chair, put your feet up on the desk, and say, “Yay! I’m caught up. Everything is done!”

That’s not going to happen. Life is a constant progression of pushing stuff forward. That’s what life is, moving this thing forward, moving that thing forward and there’s always something to do. So fear of falling behind is an important part of this inability to just sit and stop and rest.

These three things: hurry sickness creating stress and worry, hyper awareness of time, and fear of falling behind; I would group all of these under the tendency to tie your self-worth to productivity.

The idea is that you are not a valuable person unless you are doing something. You’re not a good person unless you are productive. This is a problem because our value as human beings doesn’t come from what we do, but who we are, right? And yes, what we do may be in alignment with who we are, but we can get stuck in the cycle of just being productive for the sake of being productive due to the idea that if we’re not productive, then we’re lazy or not deserving of reward or prosperity or abundance, or whatever it is for you.

Of course, we derive value from being productive. It feels good to accomplish our goals, and it feels good to our self-worth when we earn money, take care of the family, and set important plans in motion.

However, we don’t want our self-value to depend exclusively on our productivity, that’s a huge mistake. I would suggest that you take time to examine your thoughts and see if that is indeed the case with you. Is that what’s stopping you from stopping or slowing down? Is that what’s keeping you from doing less and enjoying life more? I think that is a worthwhile thing think about, don’t you?

We’re talking about “doing addiction.” Doing addiction, that’s the second term that I read about that I hadn’t heard before, an addiction to doing. Why would we become addicted to doing?

To distract ourselves from negative emotions. We don’t want to feel negative emotions. We don’t want to feel grief, we don’t want to feel loss, we don’t want to feel anxiety, worry, uncertainty. We don’t want to feel lack of confidence or fear. So we distract ourselves by obsessively needing to do something even when we don’t need to.

Why do we call it an addiction? Because an addiction is something that we use to medicate ourselves, to not feel. It’s entirely possible that having to be busy all the time and not resting is a way to medicate ourselves to our feelings. If I’m busy, I’m always distracted. If I never sit down and feel what I need to feel, they I’m not vulnerable right? If I’m not productive, then somebody’s going to come and call me out on my laziness, etc., etc. It’s an addiction when you use it but can’t control it and you know it’s not working for you anymore.

This is an important thing to discuss, because the way to let go of negative emotions is to feel them.

If we are distracting ourselves from feeling our emotions, then we are repressing our emotions, and as I’ve discussed in previous podcasts, the downside of emotional repression could show up in the body as physical challenges or become overwhelming and lead to other mental health issues.

We need to be okay with feeling our feelings. And if when you stop or rest, feelings come up that you don’t want to feel, that’s a good sign that there’s something you need to pay attention to.

You might ask yourself: Where are these feelings coming from? What can I do about them to release them or resolve them?

There are many different ways to make this happen. However, it starts with recognizing that you have these emotions or feelings inside of you that you don’t want to feel, or that you’re avoiding.

Then, there may be a need for therapy or some intervention, or at the very least, attention and the intention not to avoid uncomfortable feelings.

Another reason that some people don’t want to stop, rest or slow down, may be due experiences of trauma and prolonged overwhelming stress, leaving their nervous systems in a state of hypervigilance which is the feeling of being constantly on guard.

It’s very common for people to be walking around in this constant state of what we might call hyper arousal, or hyper vigilance, the feeling that if you’re not always preparing, or on alert, something catastrophic is going to happen to you and you’re going to be caught off guard. You constantly feel the need to think and plan and focus, or something bad is going to happen.

This is typically a trauma response for many people, and for people that have experienced periods of intense prolonged stress.

Ultimately, there is a feeling of lack of control. We want to keep everything under wraps. We want to control how we’re feeling and to control how we’re feeling, we need to control everything out there. And guess what? You can’t control everything out there. You can control some things. I personally feel that you have no control over anything except the thoughts that you attach to but that’s a podcast topic for another time.

However, I think trying to control everything out there so that you can control what you’re feeling is a losing proposition, like a dog chasing its tail. Better to be ok with not always being in control.

So these are some things to think about. Ask yourself: “Do I have this hidden fear of slowing down, of resting, of stopping?”

Many people do and if you do, what can you do about it?

How can we address this fear of simply taking time to stop and smell the roses?

It comes down to a couple of things.

Recognize it. That’s the first step.

Admit to yourself: “Oh, I really feel anxiety when I stop. I really feel afraid when I’m not being productive.”

Recognize that, and if that’s something you want to change, then you can start working on it.

Start by practicing. We need to practice stopping or pausing. We need to feel what comes up. Notice it. Write about it. Talk about it in therapy or with somebody you trust or love, or with a counselor, whatever.

You might say: “So I’m productive and busy all the time and I don’t want to deal with my emotions and that’s fine with me.” Great! No problem.

But typically people that come to me don’t want to feel afraid of resting and stopping. They go on vacation and they can’t relax. They go to a party to have a fun, relaxing time with friends but can’t stay off their phones to work or deal with one thing or another. Or, they have incredible resistance to just spending time with others and taking it easy. For many people, that’s not how they want to live.

One of the ways that we can practice stopping or resting is through meditation. It can be difficult. Meditation is very hard for many people for that exact reason that they’re not used to stopping. They can’t stop. Their minds are like, blah blah blah chatter chatter chatter blah blah blah, right? But that’s why meditation is called a practice. We have to practice meditation.

Can’t figure out the meditation thing? How about taking some deep breaths, just practicing maybe two or three minutes of deep breathing? This is a way of stopping, a way of calming the nervous system, a way of resetting that hyper vigilance to a more calm, relaxed state.

Another important strategy is to schedule relaxation into your life. Schedule a day off, or maybe just half a day. For example, half of the day on Sunday, you’re not going to do anything, just sit and watch TV, read a book or play an instrument.

Positive affirmations can be very helpful as well and can be very, very powerful. Don’t underestimate the words that you say to yourself.

Positive affirmations might sound something like: “It’s okay if I take a break, it’s okay. If I take a day off, everything’s going to be okay. I’m still productive and valuable even if I take time off.”

If we have those affirmations and we’ve practiced them, then when a negative thought comes in, like “You’re being lazy for taking a break”, then you can challenge it. You can challenge it because you have this new language and a new way of being available to you.

I’ve discussed scheduling relaxation, however, time scheduling in general is fundamental to this equation.

Time scheduling is important so that you can be realistic about what you can accomplish. If you have a list of 100 things to do, and you start the day by looking at that list, that’s a losing battle right off the start, because you’re probably not going to be able to accomplish 100 things, and you’ll end up feeling stressed and bad about yourself at the end of the day.

Instead, focus on accomplishing eight or nine things that are the most important things you need to prioritize.

The key to being productive, in my view, is getting the most important stuff done first and if you have time left over, you take care of the minor stuff. This is where time blocking is very helpful. For example: “From 10 to 11, I’m going to do this. From 11 to 12, I’m going to focus on that. From 12 to one, I’m going to eat some lunch and maybe read or scroll through social media.

Finally, you can always seek professional help to get better at slowing down or stopping and getting more comfortable with relaxing. Seek professional help especially for trauma or past times of stress or loss or grief that you are having trouble managing on your own.

I work in many of these areas, and if that is something you’re interested in, you can reach out to me to get a complimentary phone consultation by going to TedMoreno.com/contact.

Is this a hidden fear you have that you didn’t know: the fear of slowing down or stopping? If your answer is “Maybe”, then check it out. Do some writing. Talk to other people, ask them what they think.

If it’s not something that you experience, if you’re fully able to rest, relax and slow down, then share this podcast with somebody that you think could benefit.

Or, leave a comment letting me know what you think.

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Thank you for reading!

Ted

 

Interview with Rohini Walker, Writer, Mentor and Consultant – Episode 476


You must check out this fascinating and illuminating conversation with Rohini Walker, British-Indian writer and devoted practitioner of soul-body liberation. Rohini moved to the desert of Joshua Tree, California with her husband from London, England in 2013 and began a creative journey of writing, mentoring, and consulting.

Rohini co-founded the arts and cultural print periodical Luna Arcana, with Martin Mancha (Ted’s cousin)

Ted was inspired to have Rohini as a guest because of her article titled “Committing to Digestion in the Information Age.” In this article from her newsletter Letters from Luna, Rohini discusses the over-consumption of information that has become addictive and normalized. Like going from one all-you-can-eat buffet to another without allowing anything to digest, this incessant consumption of news and social media keeps us distracted, anxious, and uncomfortable in our bodies with “hot heads and cold bellies.”

Drawing from Ayurveda, Traditional Chinese Medicine and other indigenous wisdom traditions, Rohini shares how she works with her clients to have greater connection with one’s body as well as to the natural world, allowing us to cultivate “Cool heads and warm bellies”.  This episode is guaranteed to give you some things to think about.

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“Committing to Digestion in the Information Age”

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