I hate to admit this to you, but when I was younger and much more foolish, I used to open my door to some pretty unsavory characters.
They weren’t even very likable, I just got comfortable having them around. They were familiar and I knew what to expect from them. I didn’t realize until much later how much hanging around with them was holding me back from what I knew I could be.
One day, there was a knock on the door while I was reading a book by the first self-development author I ever read, Dr. Wayne Dyer. I opened the door to find Cynicism, someone I knew very well, standing there. I was dismayed to see that he had brought Negativity with him, who I really despised, especially since he was always wearing that dumb “I’m With Stupid” T-shirt.
“Hey dude. It’s another crappy day. Perfect day for getting messed up”, Cynicism said. I noticed he had brought along a sixer of his favorite beverage, Notwieser Light.
I don’t know why, maybe it was the Dyer book, but I said “Sorry guys, not today”.
Negativity stepped forward and whined “Don’t be like that, homey! Let’s throw back a few and complain about the system!”
I hate being called homey. “No”, I said. “You guys get outta here. Now. I’m busy”
They shuffled off, Cynicism grumbling “Thinks he’s too good now…”
I sat back down and felt weird. This was uncomfortable for me. I’ve always been a “nice” guy. I pretty much let in whoever wanted to come in and let them stay as long as they wanted. Right then, there was another knock at the door. I got up, irritated. I threw open the door expecting Negativity and Cynicism but instead, Possibility was standing there. I’d seen him a couple of times, but didn’t really know him too well. “Hey”, he said.”I thought I would drop by since I was in the neighborhood. Mind if I come in?’
“Sure”, I replied. “So tell me, what kept you from coming by before?”
“I’ve tried” he said. “But I make it a point not to hang out with those other two clowns who just left.”
Cynicism and Negativity still come by and knock , but most of the time I just don’t open the door and pretty soon they go away. The odd times that I do let them in because I’m too tired to say “Get lost”, I make sure they don’t stay very long. I haven’t seen Resignation and Despair in a while. Fear must have a key but I’m in the process of changing the locks. More and more, I find myself entertaining Possibility, who is always welcome, along with Hope, Belief, and Courage. Needless to say, life is much better.
Here are five simple steps to keep those Mental Mischief Makers from messing with your mind.
- Stop Complaining. The MMMs are attracted to complaining like ants to sugar. They seem to have some special radar to help them find complainers. First they’ll allow you to feel justified, then they’ll move in and take over the place.
- Plant gratitude outside your front door. You know how some animals will not come into your garden if you have the right herbs planted to keep them from eating your veggies? Gratitude is repellent to Negativity and in large enough amounts does a great job of keeping the other jokers away too.
- Take regular Inspiration Vacations. Read, hear, see things that inspire you. There’s no way that you will even hear those troublemakers knock if you’re involved in something that lifts you up and inspires you. Keep your mind in that place where your highest ideals reside.
- Use Incantations. This is the magic that really acts like a spell to keep Negativity, Resignation, Fear, Cynicism, Doubt, and Despair away. Incantations are what you say to yourself to create what you want. Examples: I can do this, I have what it takes, I am up to this challenge, I am attracting money now, creativity flows through me. To make them really powerful, write them down and put them near a candle and light it. Seriously, I’m not kidding. Say these things a hundred times a day. Really.
- Always be up to something. If you are up to stuff, making stuff happen, dreaming, hoping, planning, taking action, then you will be too busy for these those pesky MMMs when they come to visit. You’ll see them for what they are: a distraction and a diversion from making your unique contribution to life.
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TManTed A. Moreno Personal/Small Business Coach Certified Hypnotherapist www.TedMoreno.com (626) 826-0612