I Should Get What I Deserve, So I’m Taking a 2 Month Vacation

I’ve decided to take two months vacation to travel to Nepal to study meditation in Kathmandu. I’ve decided that not only do I deserve a vacation, but that I deserve to get enlightenment in this life; not interested in waiting until the next. I’m cashing out my IRA and will be leaving next week. I’ve also decided that I deserve to be hanging out with the most enlightened people on the planet, therefore, I will stop first in Dharmasala, India, to hang with the Dalai Lama.

As you may have guessed, this is my April Fool’s joke. The closest I’ll probably ever get to Kathmandu is by listening to that Bob Seger song. As far as hanging with the Dalai Lama, well, there’s a card with his face on it in my office, does that count?

Yes, I do deserve a vacation and maybe I’ll get one soon. And there are some situations in my life that I probably don’t deserve. You probably feel there are some things you deserve but aren’t getting. But here’s the real joke that’s been played on all of us. And this may fly in the face of all you’ve been taught.

Deserve has got nothing to do with it.

That’s right. What you think you deserve, what’s happened to you that you don’t deserve, what you feel you deserve, has nothing to do with whether you get it or not.

Yet, most of us have been programmed to believe that we can’t get that promotion until we deserve it, that we can’t get that relationship until we deserve it, that because of what we’ve done, or haven’t done yet, we don’t deserve happiness. When bad things happen to us, we protest “I don’t deserve this!” But the fact is, deserve’s got nothing to do with it.

Here is the cold, hard reality: there are plenty of people that have nice things that they don’t deserve. There are plenty of folks out there right now that have had terrible things happen to them that they don’t deserve. There are people that are getting what they deserve, there are people that aren’t. There’s people in jail because they stole what they wanted because they felt they deserved it. In fact, I’ve heard it suggested just recently that our society has become a culture of entitlement because of what we feel we deserve.

This whole deserve thing has really screwed up our thinking. The joke is on you, if you are waiting to get what you want until you deserve it. Here is my tip for the day: throw the word “deserve” out.

Consider this: you can get what you want without being deserving of it. You don’t always have to work hard to get it. You don’t have to always earn it. Sometimes it just comes your way, if you are open to it. Just like bad stuff is going to come your way that you don’t deserve.

Same thing with being worthy or unworthy. What has that got do with it? Nothing.

Sometimes we are gifted for no reason at all. Are you willing to have what you don’t deserve? Are you willing to have what you didn’t earn? If no, why not?

Life is a miracle. Having a life is a gift. What did you do to deserve it? Does it matter? 

Be willing to be a recipient of a gift, willing to be the recipient of the grace of the universe.

Try this:

  • Never say never
  • Always say “It’s possible.” 
  • The impossible is only that until it becomes possible.
  • Ask yourself “What do I need to believe to get this or to have this come true?”
  • Look back at any miracles that have taken place in your life. If they happened once thay can happen again.
  • Be willing to be undeserving.

 This is where miracles happen.Being open to having them happen is a good way to have them happen. And they do happen. All the time. Whether we deserve them or not. No fooling.

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Ted A. Moreno
Personal/Small Business Coach
Certified Hypnotherapist
Specializing in Your Success
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4 replies
  1. Natalie
    Natalie says:

    So, I’ll stop saying to you, “What did I do to deserve you,” and continue thanking my lucky stars.

  2. Therese
    Therese says:

    good and funny. I thought good for u to take vacation and go some place Amazing!!!
    I just got back from India it was Incrediable
    I agree with the deserving / not deserving.
    I think as children we are taught if we want something we are told do you think you deserve it. Also if we didn’t get something we were told you don’t deserve it because you were bad. Thanks for reminding us that we need to change our thinking

    • Ted A. Moreno
      Ted A. Moreno says:

      Good for you to take a vacation! How cool to go to India! Thanks for your comment and readership.

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