Today’s post is by guest author Tarnie Falloon, Licensed Physical Therapist and Transformational Healer. Tarnie emphasizes mindful movement as a way to health and wellness.
Are you friends with your body? Do you love, appreciate, and honor it just the way it is?
Last week I was talking to a woman who hated her body. Her sense of self loathing was so great that she could not look at herself in the mirror without feeling sick. She could see nothing that was truly “good” about her body.
As a young girl her body had suffered a great deal of traumatic experiences. Due to this suffering she had learned to retreat to her mind. Her mind became her “safe place,” and she had disconnected from her body’s feelings as though it had “failed” her.
As a way of surviving traumatic events it is typical for people to “disassociate” from the experience, and we protect our nervous system by “checking out” from our body. We retreat to our mind, which serves us initially to survive, but ultimately does not do us any good. Our lives will start to reflect this disconnection, either through health issues, relationship issues, work issues, money issues, or feeling like we are not living with purpose or meaning.
Many of us leave our bodies without realizing it- we don’t even know we are not living in each moment, and we honestly forget how to be present. When we are not present, and not living in our body, we are literally unable to take care of ourselves. It’s as if there is nobody “home.”
I know this pattern firsthand from my childhood. While I was growing up I had an alcoholic father, and a very critical mother (both of whom I loved). I had to disassociate from my body to survive. I did not start to really feel “at home” in my body until I was in my mid 30s. That’s when I started authentic movement classes. There is nothing like movement to bring us to the present, and living in our bodies.
Osho’s quote exemplifies the importance of our body relationship, he says:
Be loving towards your body, befriend your body,
revere your body,
respect your body, take care of your body – it is God’s gift.
Treat it well,
and it will reveal great mysteries to you.
All growth depends on how you are related to your body.
Learning to be present, being in our body, and accepting ourselves just the way we are is a sign of good health. Being connected and grounded in our body is a way of saying “I am here, right now, and I am safe at home within myself.” As we befriend our body we allow for life to open in ways we didn’t know were possible.
I know this has been very true for clients I have worked with. I have one client that recently shared how she feels so much more present and safe within herself. She has new found meaning and joy in her life that she could not have conceived of before we started working together a year ago. “I am in my body for the first time in my life, and the changes have been amazing,” she said. “I never knew I could love what I do for work, and have the money flow into my life. My family is happy, and I am enjoying my life for the first time in many, many years.”
It gives me great joy to work with clients that want to “get out of their head,” and “find what they are here for.”
People consistently call me saying that they:
- are ready to find their and meaning in their lives.
- want to heal their issues that they have been bumping up against for years.
- know that there is more to their life, but they just don’t know how to get there.
- want to deepen their life experience, and they instinctively know that deepening their body connection has the answers for them.
I will leave you with this thought to ponder today, “How can I be more loving towards my body today?” and /or “How can I revere my body more today?”
I always enjoy hearing from you, and I look forward to your responses to this question.
Tarnie Falloon, PT, MA is the creator of Body Freedom™, a unique transformational method integrating the body, mind and spirit providing proven techniques to transform your life. To find out more about Tarnie, visit her website at www.BodyFreedom.com.